Out of the FOG was launched on November 1 2007 to provide information and support to the family members and loved-ones of individuals who suffer from a personality disorder.
We are a supportive, close-knit community, encouraging one another through the many challenges that come with having a family member or significant other who has a personality disorder. You can join our support community here.
The Out of the FOG leadership team is the most experienced team of its kind in the world. We are unpaid volunteers who have years of experience living with someone who suffers from a personality disorder and who share a passion to educate and encourage others who find themselves lost in the "FOG". Click here to read welcome messages from the leadership team.
Dealing with a loved-one or family member who suffers from a personality disorder can sometimes feel like navigating through a fog. FOG stands for Fear, Obligation, Guilt - feelings which often result from being in a relationship with a person who suffers from a Personality Disorder. The FOG acronym was coined by Susan Forward & Donna Frazier in their book Emotional Blackmail. It is our hope that this site may help some navigate out of the FOG in their own lives.
People often arrive at our site feeling a range of emotions including fear, anger, confusion, guilt, a sense of isolation, hopelessness and powerlessness. It can be a tremendous relief to discover that others have been where you are and are struggling with some of the same issues. You are not alone. We have been there.
This site and the message board was created by and for families and loved ones of people who suffer from a personality disorder as a way of sharing information and support. The authors of this site are not licensed mental health professionals or affiliated with any licensed medical organization.
The content on this site is intended for informational purposes only, and should be treated accordingly. Information at this site should not be used to replace the treatment of a licensed mental health professional.
The owner of this site shall not be liable for any damage resulting from the use or misuse of information contained on this site.
For More Information & Support...
If you suspect you may have a family member or loved-one who suffers from a personality disorder, we encourage you to learn all you can and surround yourself with support as you learn how to cope.
August 25, 2014 - OOTF announce an exciting new development - it's called Out of the Storm - a support site specifically designed for people who suffer from CPTSD - Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. At OOTF we have often welcomed members who are dealing with CPTSD as a consequence of having been in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. Nevertheless, for a long time we have recognized that CPTSD sufferers have a distinct and unique set of concerns and issues.
Nov 9, 2013 - OOTF has just launched a new "Future Goals" forum. This forum is a safe place to store your goals of what you would like to achieve. Setting goals can help us move forward, and give us something to focus on while we are working our way through day to day issues. Goals can change, be amended or added to over time as we either achieve them, or determine new goals as our lives unfold.