About this forum

[Aames]

This forum is for general discussion about personality disorders, behaviors, traits and how to cope.

See the following for more information:

Introduction to personality disorders
Common traits of personality disorders
Toolbox for loved-ones & caregivers
Glossary of terms
Emergency Info

[Spring Butterfly]

While behaviors or traits maybe common to most Personality Disordered persons especially of a particular cluster the Out of the FOG community Guidelines are clear when it comes to generalizations:

Giving Advice:

This is a confidential peer support group created by men and women who have experienced personal relationships with a personality disordered relative, friend or partner.  We are not mental health professionals, and don't offer this board as a substitute for professional assistance.  Any advice you receive here should be taken in that context.

Feel free to share how you cope or have coped with various situations - that's the purpose of this forum!  But please avoid making blanket statements like "You *should* do this and that" especially when you don't know the person well.  Another person's situation may be very different from yours.  Often, people need to come to their own conclusions in their own time frame.  Also, please avoid making blanket or derogatory generalizations about mental illness, personality disorders, personality disordered individuals or "Nons" that are unsupported by clinical literature.

Having a personality disordered relative, friend or partner can be difficult, and sometimes other posters may say or do things that you don't approve of.  We are all coming from different stages, situations, and backgrounds.  Please be considerate and non-judgmental about how others live their lives.  If you respond harshly or judgmentally, you will make it harder for others to post for fear of being judged.

You are welcome to ask questions about what you think is going on in the mind of a particular person you are close to. However, broad generalizations about entire groups of people who suffer from personality disorders, such as "they can't help it" or "they have no feelings" are misleading to others. Members who repeatedly post such generalizations are subject to moderation and will be asked to refrain.

http://www.outofthefog.net/forum/index.php?topic=30.0

Regarding Traits:

Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns.

[xredshoesx]

If you are speaking from your perspective and using statements like, "In my experience......" , "With my PD/uPD......" or similar language you are speaking from what you personally experienced and not making generalizations. 


Please try to avoid using statements that include phrasing like 'all PDs/uPDs', 'they/them' or similar wording.