(http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51tPfFNGABL._SL125_.jpg) Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

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"Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" L.Bancroft

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    I finally read this book after seeing ti recommended on this site many times. What an eye-opener! This website has helped me begin to come Out of the FOG but Bancroft's book has been like a giant flashlight showing me the way and illuminating my whole almost 30 year marriage.  I have often said that things really got bad with my H about 4 or 5 years ago, but after reading this book I realize that I've been suffering abuse for nearly our whole relationship. I always wondered why our r/s seemed so hard, so complicated, why I felt so angry and frustrated when dealing with him.  I would ask my Mom for advice because she and my Dad has such a great marriage, I tried to apply advice from our minister, from self-help books; nothing ever seemed to work.  Now I know why. This book cleared up so many questions I had and validated my experiences like nothing else ever has. I found myself highlighting and making stars and exclamation points in the margins as I found point after point that hit home with me.  If you are on this website for help then you NEED to read this book!



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Just read it, along with the Daily Wisdom from Why Does He Do That? Both are great and illuminating....if a bit depressing. Sad for me to see how difficult/impossible it is for them to change, especially if they don't even recognize there's a problem. My husband is also a Demands Man, fits the description perfectly.



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As a note, I have been in DV counseling for a couple months now, and my counselor gives me photocopied chapters from this book each visit to read before my next visit.  So I must say it is such a good book that DV assistance programs use it to help their clients.

Indeed, it is good reading.
"Only I can change my life.  No one can do it for me."
-Carol Burnette