He took my daughter away from me Part 2

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mdana

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Re: He took my daughter away from me Part 2
« Reply #15 on: January 12, 2017, 12:19:27 AM »
Good to hear redfish!

Everything ...isn't working against you, actually.  Some things are working in your favor...it's a process.

I am happy to read about your progress, and that you continue the work of recovery and self-improvement both for yourself and your beautiful daughter.
It's never an easy road, but it's the best journey you will ever travel.  Reminds me of the lovely poem by Mary Oliver, "The Journey". Here it is:

Poetry
By
Mary Oliver
The Journey

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice--
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
"Mend my life!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do--
determined to save
the only life you could save.



Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. The Dalai Lama

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Re: He took my daughter away from me Part 2
« Reply #16 on: January 14, 2017, 07:00:36 AM »
Mdana- that's a beautiful poem, thank you!

It does at times feel like everything is working against me. I have the sneaky feeling some of Ex's friends actually know the truth though. I ran into one at work and the guy looked at me with some intense sympathy and then squeezed me with a hug. So that was reassuring. The smart campaign and gaslighting has me still occasionally doubting myself- as in is the problem really me??? But I get stronger every day. Well some days no progress is made at all and I cry off and on several times during the day. But most days are productive.
If Cinderella went back to pick up her shoe she never would've become a princess

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Re: He took my daughter away from me Part 2
« Reply #17 on: January 17, 2017, 09:34:36 PM »
I hear you ...

It takes a long time to recover from emotional trauma/abuse.  The longer you stay away from it ... the more clarity you will get.  NC is so necessary, because its repeated contact that draws us back into the 'fog'...we get confused, we begin to doubt ourselves, we aren't sure what we heard...

It's ok to cry ...it's good, you probably have allot to grieve!

XOXO
M
Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. The Dalai Lama