Just a touch happier than I like to see him because of what is likely to happen......he finds something to be dissatisfied about/blame me for and gets surly.
Just a note from my personal experiences, he's being awfully nice as you describe, he may try a more ...determined try. My uNh was like that. He'd get all aggressive, then back down and be really nice, they try and approach nicely, and when that didn't work, that's when he got angry, not just aggressive.
"Because we know how badly the woman doesn't want to do it."When he said it, I thought, "Well, there you have it." It's not about sex. It's about power. It's about control. It's about making you do something you don't want to do, because that is what brings him pleasure. It's just sickening.