Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic

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In loco parentis

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Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« on: January 20, 2017, 02:20:23 PM »
"When you find yourself going through Hell, keep going."
A well worn path can be such a comfort... and/or such a rut.

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2017, 02:29:57 PM »
ILP,
"the devil might not even know you're there"
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
 Wayne Dyer

“The only person educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”  Carl Rogers

The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?
Capt. Jack Sparrow

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Joga

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #2 on: February 08, 2017, 01:56:24 AM »
Mine is simple but something that didn't occur to me until last week, shockingly. It's in my siggy.

I deserve respect.
I deserve respect.

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raerae1610

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #3 on: February 13, 2017, 01:13:05 AM »
I am well.
Also, I am empowered.

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #4 on: March 14, 2017, 06:46:38 PM »
Lately = "That I am resilient and emotionally strong"! (2) "I am lovable and able to love" (3) "This heartbreak will pass"!

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biggerfish

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #5 on: March 29, 2017, 10:04:41 PM »
I've been surrounding all distress with self compassion. And so, many times a day I say "poor biggerfish is in distress right now." It helps with triggers, bad feelings, and self condemnation. Now I am realizing just how often I am in emotional pain!

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #6 on: March 29, 2017, 10:38:46 PM »
But still I rise.

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In For Life

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #7 on: March 30, 2017, 12:10:26 AM »
After listening to some you tube of  Ross Rosenberg,  " abserve, don't absorb " reminds me to step back.

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #8 on: March 30, 2017, 10:33:38 AM »
One foot in front of the other, one day at a time.

Life is good.

Thanks for this thread! It's lovely reading every one else's!
"Suppose a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?"
"Suppose it didn't," said Pooh, after careful thought.
Piglet was comforted by this.
- A.A. Milne.

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guitarman

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #9 on: May 18, 2017, 02:34:42 AM »
You do not have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

I've got to keep remembering that.
"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author

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biggerfish

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #10 on: May 18, 2017, 08:48:45 AM »
Here's one that a geriatric social worker taught me: "You can't make happy."

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blacksheep7

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #11 on: May 20, 2017, 02:16:07 PM »
I will survive!
I may be the black sheep of the family, but some of the white sheep are not as white as they try to appear.

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #12 on: June 24, 2017, 07:01:25 PM »
At first I used sharpie to write 'I am worth' on my arm where I could look at it several times a day, but also cover it with a sleeve. Stopped after a couple weeks due to warmer weather but it was oddly effective and gave me strength. I am worth doing hard things, because I do deserve to have good things.

Currently using 'I love you' to myself. I read that people who say I love you a lot are often in need of love, and tell my dog all the time lol. I deserve at least as much love as a dog, so here we are.

I'm looking forward to graduating to more complex mantras as i recover. :)

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daughterofbpd

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #13 on: June 27, 2017, 08:22:00 PM »
Great thread! I have 2 that I am loving this week:

Listen to your inner owl.

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You can't make everyone happy. You're not pizza.
“How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego”
~ Amanda Torroni

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biggerfish

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #14 on: June 27, 2017, 09:53:42 PM »
My latest mantra is "Not my job." And I'm finding out just how many things are not my job. It's a shock.

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #15 on: July 05, 2017, 04:13:13 AM »
"Keep trying, even Einstein didn't get it right the first few times."

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"It's ok to ask for help, and it's ok to take up space because I'm human too."
As someone who was raised to take care of everyone else, my feelings and wants and needs and opinions didn't matter. It was so wrong to upset someone else, even when they disagreed. By taking up space, I'm giving myself permission to be who I am, to allow my feelings to matter, to allow my wants and needs to be met even if that means putting up boundaries not everyone else will like. After all, boundaries are spaces where we dictate how other people to interact with us.

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guitarman

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #16 on: July 17, 2017, 06:12:57 AM »
"Frankly my dear I don't give a damn."
"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #17 on: July 27, 2017, 07:19:11 PM »
I have a new one that I just love:

If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive......... :bigwink:

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biggerfish

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #18 on: July 28, 2017, 08:59:06 AM »
I have a new one that I just love:

If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive......... :bigwink:

 :yeahthat:  Yup. This is exactly where I'm at right now. For some reason, until LAST WEEK, I didn't get it. I was having terrible anxiety (for years) about things going wrong and waiting for things to be fixed. Well...that's called LIFE. So I was miserable.

Then one day I realized that I'd rather have things broken and have inner peace. So now, many times a day, every day, I say to myself "Which is more important?" Clearly, I still want to achieve the goal, fix the problem, etc etc, but if that desire means loss of my inner peace, then the inner peace wins.

My whole outlook on life has shifted as a result. Hopefully others here will figure this out before I did. I'm sixty.

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blacksheep7

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Re: Revisiting EXCELLENT "What's your mantra lately" topic
« Reply #19 on: July 29, 2017, 11:33:04 AM »
Hi Biggerfish,
I am sixty also and suffered from anxiety, practically my whole life.  Yes, it was just Life and I came to that realisation only within the last year, too.  We were brought up in Chaos which did not  prepare us to  tackle  the stresses.  I remember telling my NF, at fifty for some reason that I was tight on money, which I had never done before and he just brushed it off "yeah, yeah, we all have money problems "no interest in the world to find out why or if he could help.  And my mother the enabler would say "you never tell me anything" :doh:  Like you, today my inner peace is what I am working on. 
I may be the black sheep of the family, but some of the white sheep are not as white as they try to appear.