So Sad..

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Mouseytwo

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So Sad..
« on: December 15, 2017, 10:05:06 AM »
My son, 22, who has been diagnosed schizophrenic, has exhausted his family. He lived with me until he broke my current husband's hand and kept getting arrested at my apartment complex. There have been many arrests, bail etc. He currently has an open case now. My management company threatened to evict me as they have a zero tolerance for this sort of behavior. He lived with my ex-husband (who would supply him with weed exacerbating the problem, thought he was helping so that he wouldn't abuse the synthetic weed). My ex-husband finally had enough and kicked him out. He had stolen from him, assaulted him, broken his car windows when he did not get his way.(2 cars) He does not want to adhere to any treatment program, fights tooth and nail to receive his haldol shot every month does not want therapy. I suspect he is on stronger drugs than week as he is constantly stealing from his father. His father kicked him out last week and he showed up at my door on Sunday, asking for money. I refused, however, I offered him food, which he stated he ate the homeless shelter. I did have just 4 dollars on me, which he snatched out of my hand and then told me F*** you. Twice. I have not heard from him since Sunday. I am worried, worried, worried, and struggling. I know we did the right thing. But is cold, it is snowing and my heart hurts. I am trying so hard to resist the need to rescue even in the face of his awful behavior. No one knows what I am going through with him except my immediate family. It is so hard. Thanks for listening.

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momnthefog

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Re: So Sad..
« Reply #1 on: December 15, 2017, 07:14:39 PM »
Mouseytwo,

It is unimaginable sadness and grief.

You want them to call to know their safe, but dread what it means....begging for money, abuse.

Yes, it sounds like drugs. My oldest ASPD lies steals, pawns, prostitutes. 

Read about the concept of detachment.  Also suggest soberrecovery.com since you suspect drug use.  The forum has one board to support families and many mothers post there.

Hugs, many many hugs,
Momnthefog
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Adria

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Re: So Sad..
« Reply #2 on: February 08, 2018, 08:36:58 AM »
Mouseytwo,

We are going through something very similar with our schizophrenic son right now.  He is becoming more and more aggressive with thoughts of harming dh and I.  We are at our wits end and can't seem to find any help.  Son's father, my ex also was providing him with weed when this all started, but son hasn't done that in years.  However, I think that is what triggered the schizophrenia to some degree. Then of course his dad is no where to be found.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is truly exhausting and there doesn't seem to be any help out there.  It's surreal.  How can we be left to deal with all of this in this day and age. Nobody seems to care. :bighug: