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MeFirst

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Quick Fleas Question
« on: July 14, 2018, 06:18:08 AM »
I was just thinking today that  I feel insecure now, like I somehow miss/need my uPD ex's approval. I never used to be like that. Is this an impact of the PD on me that I have now become a bit like him??

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Re: Quick Fleas Question
« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2018, 01:54:54 PM »
Hello,

Yep, I think you're right. I still struggle with this. Worried if he would approve of my appearance if I saw him at an event, or on the rare occasion he comes to my hm (we are separated and frankly, I am really struggling with divorcing) that the house meets his standards for cleanliness. I have panic  attacks about these things, 6 months out. I think your feelings are normal. We have been conditioned to behave certain ways.  I also think it's OUR nature to lean this way anyway, approval seeking ourselves. It's what makes us a perfect match for them. We are the Ying to thier yang so to speak.