Guide for Resolving Conflict

[daughterofbpd]

I just read this article by Mark Manson about resolving conflict and wanted to share. He explains things in such a simple and easy to understand manner:
https://markmanson.net/relationship-problems

I think the "They are trying to change you" section can really apply to dealing with PD relationships. My example would be my M trying to change my habits for how much contact I want to have, etc.

Mark basically says that you have 2 (healthy) choices in this instance:
   

Step One: Tell them that this is who you are and they can take it or leave it.
    Step Two: If they don't accept it and keep trying to change you, you leave the relationship.

He has a guide to boundaries on his site too: https://markmanson.net/boundaries

I think its really great advice, most of what I've been trying to implement in my own life already, but I am amazed by how simple he makes it sound. Hope someone else finds this helpful. 

[all4peace]

I bookmarked both pages. Really great format, easy to follow. I love the way he maps out the steps! Seems so simple, how did it take me years to get to this point?! Thanks for sharing.

[Spring Butterfly]

Good stuff! Thanks.

[Whiteheron]

Still reading... but wanted to mention that this hit home:

"The victim creates more and more problems to solve and the saver solves and solves"

That was my marriage in a nutshell. Constantly solving his manufactured problems was exhausting.

Thanks for posting!

[bloomie]

daughterofbpd - to preserve this great resource I moved this over to our other media resources board. Thank you for sharing this. Good stuff!