Here Again

[Here Again]

I am back here on the Forum and it adds to my emotional burden, thinking I had not successfully learned from first experience on the Forum. I was here in September, 2014, my life in total chaos. I learned that my spouse had paranoid personality disorder and it was not treatable because she did not acknowledge its existence ("you're the one with the problem"). I found great advice and friendship on this site in my time of need. Does anyone stay in contact with Oneness? She was a rock star. My marriage ended in 2015 and it took many years to heal, emotionally and financially.

What went wrong is that I did not do the right "work on me" at the time. I was too convinced that my mentall ill spouse was the source of problems.

So I made the same mistakes. Huge investment in relationship with, you guessed it, another PD. I looked the other way, not fully appreciating red flags.

It's day one of being over. I am done and not going back despite the 87 texts and 32 voice mails.

The pain is intense, I can't believe I am back here in mental anguish.

thank you all of you who are here, welcoming me back.

[notrightinthehead]

Welcome back! Sometimes we need to make similar mistakes in order to truly learn the lesson.