HPD Mother

[Time4healing]

Just discovered this site and am so grateful.  I'm a middle aged adult female who has always known something wasn't right with my mother.  I was diagnosed with C-PTSD a couple of years ago.  I had thought she was a narcissist and wasn't familiar with HPD.  I started reading and am shocked!  I would bet that there aren't 2 characteristics shown that she does not extremely exhibit regularly.  Childhood and teen years were rough.  I'm so glad to be here to learn and to heal further.  I've come a long way but being able to put a label on her behavior helps to make so much more sense. 

[notrightinthehead]

Welcome to this informative and supportive site! I am glad you found us. Check out the Toolbox for strategies when you need to protect yourself. See you around on the boards.

[NarcKiddo]

Welcome.

I agree it does help to be able to put some sort of label on a PD, if only for objective confirmation that we weren't making it all up and imagining things. My therapist has pointed out to me that all these conditions exist on a spectrum. I also feel that although my parents would primarily be narcs were they to be diagnosed, they exhibit very different behaviour patterns and there are probably other things in the mix. I visualise some huge, terrible Venn diagram sometimes! Your supposition that your mother is a narc may not be entirely wrong even if HPD fits her better. And whatever the position, the only person you can work on is yourself, so I wish you strength and peace as you navigate these horrid, turbulent waters.

[SonofThunder]

Welcome to this informative and supportive site! I am glad you found us. Check out the Toolbox for strategies when you need to protect yourself. See you around on the boards.

Another warm welcome here, Time4healing!   See you around the boards.

SoT