UNPDstbxw sees me as black and white at the same time

[guitarman]

Abusers are all about power and control. For the first time you are taking back control of the situation. That's why it feels so scary. However, it's a good feeling to be empowered knowing that you are doing the right thing for yourself and your children.

You are speaking up and breaking the silence of abuse. Abusers want us to stay silent forever. They may act out even more when we do eventually have the courage to speak up, fearing their loss of power and control over us.

You are building your self esteem because you and your children matter. Their happiness and safety are your priority. They need you to help them. They need you to speak up on their behalf because they can't.

You will no longer tolerate abuse.

Be your own cheerleader. Tell yourself out loud that you are proud of yourself for what you are doing. You've come a long way.

Keep calm. Stay strong. Stay safe. Keep posting.

[escapingman]

Thanks for all your support, it really helps.

I will start a new thread with updates as this one is at the limit of 5 pages.