2022 flew by! It's already time to post our goals, changes, ideas for 2023.
I joined 2 writing groups this fall. So my goal for 2023 is to continue in the writing groups & possibly join a 3rd group. They only meet once/mos so it seems like forever until the next meetings.
Wanted to submit a piece for publication but didn't get around to it. Submitting will be a goal for 2023.
Your turn!
There is so much depending on the divorce but putting all that aside and starting my life anyway.
- Get rid of a lot of unhealthy habits I have got during the divorce
- Join a health club, not the cheapest gym around but a nice one where I can mix training and relaxing
- Make it a regular habit of having massages, really put myself first
- With the ones above losing some weight and getting rid of my back problems
- Travel, it will be difficult to travel alone as I have DD but then I will travel with her. Try to see the world, or at least some of Europe which is doable over weekends
- Keep expanding my social life, maybe joining a group (which scares me)
- Challenge myself workwise and stand up for myself and not just take the easy ride
- Start saying no to my FOO and move towards indifference
Thing I can't really be in charge of myself but I hope to achieve
- Get GC back in my life
- Finalise the divorce
- Buy a new house that is mine and only mine where I can grow whatever I want in the garden
I got further than I could ever imagine in 2022 - Well into the divorce proceeding and NC for 6 months.
December starts this week so 2023 is around the corner!
anyone besides escapingman wish to share their goals for 2023?
lots of great goals escapingman!
My first goal: set goals for 2023 ;)
I'm planning to take some time the week of 12/26 to set 2023 goals. Writing this here will help keep me accountable to come back and share my goals!
Thanks for starting this thread. It's inspiring to read about y'all's goals!
mustard seed.....looking forward to reading your 2023 goals
I lost weight starting in 2019 so normal weight now
recently decided that I'd like to lose another 10 lbs to be on the skinny side & not just normal weight
it would also give me a leeway in case I gain any back
also thinking of joining a new women's group that starts in Jan
My primary goal, for the rest of 2022 or perhaps even into 2023, is to try to be a good mom to my old dog and to not decide wrong about the time and circumstances of her final journey.
I need a different goal for 2023. I decided to help my dear dog end her journey today. She was my fifth dog, and making the decision changes but never gets easier.
Thank you for starting this!
I am down 25 pounds and I want to go another 30 which I think is feasible.
I am working toward walking a 5K - without my cane in the spring! The surgeon is on board and my trainer is working me hard so it feels attainable
In April my lease is up and I will finally be on my way to begin full time travel!
I want to finalize and submit another book for publication. I would also like to expand my writing market.
On an internal goal, develop the habit of daily meditation and continue yoga a few times a week.
I think I got this!
Quote from: Poison Ivy on December 09, 2022, 06:54:08 PM
I need a different goal for 2023. I decided to help my dear dog end her journey today. She was my fifth dog, and making the decision changes but never gets easier.
Aw, PoisonIvy, I am so sorry. Such a difficult, but loving, decision. Much love and compassion to you.
I love seeing everyone's goals. Hope is good for the soul.
I will have some dedicated time the last ten days of this month and will be thinking about this. Thanks for the thread! Warmest wishes to everyone for a happy and successful 2023!
I suppose I ought to sit down and actually do this. It will be helpful to have a list of goals to aim for amidst all the things happening and changing. Very much a Tale of Two Cities sort of "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times" going on in my life at the moment.
--Get our new property capable of supporting life. Like putting in a well, a septic system, getting electricity hooked up. Also start building the temporary house structure attached to the workshop so we can double the square footage we are currently living in.
--Get a new chicken coop built and move the girls and that dang grumpy rooster.
--Get Dad's estate settled. Monumentally difficult task.
--Try to finally publish a book. This is my "If you don't try, you can't fail" elephant in the room. *sigh*
--Start vlogging our homestead building journey and see if anything comes of it.
--Have our third, and final, child. Not pregnant yet, but that will likely change soon. :bigwink:
--This would be a bonus point as the timing may be impossible- try to aim at planting an early spring garden next year, which would require prepping beds late this coming fall. Which is also most likely when third child would arrive, so we'll see... I'm skeptical of this one.
--Move our fruit trees onto the homestead.
--Maybe even get the whole perimeter fence up. That may be a bit too enthusiastic as well.
--Pay off all our personal debts. That might be done before the end of this month thanks to life insurance money.
I like reading these goals. Thank you for sharing hope!
I'm sorry for your loss, PI.
I quit sugar on Nivember 1. I'd done it for a year or so years back and wanted to do it again but didn't have anything extra to give. Now I have a little more breathing room and due to a confluence of events it was easy peasy this time.
The crazy thing is that on day 17, I started to feel a lot more energy. I'm not any more productive (sadly) but I run up the stairs instead of walking, I dance to music while cooking dinner, I really want to jog but I'm legally blind and can't follow the road without help. My DD walks with me but has asthma and does not jog. Still, I goad her into going a couple hundred feet lol.
Thing is, I have some post viral syndrome (nit long covid but basically the same). With that comes a fatigue that I can't push past. Before I had it, sure, I'd be tired when I was out of shape but you keep going and eventually you get stronger and more energized. But with this, I would pay and pay for exertion. If I ever got anywhere I'd get hit with a few weeks setback, all gains lost.
Well, I did have a setback already. But I'm hoping it was just a cold or something (had a fever). Lost my energy for some time. But a few days ago it came back again, so I'm really hoping if I can avoid illness I won't have another setback.
So my goal is to keep going. No sugar. Have already been eating healthy otherwise. I don't have a scale but maybe lost a couple pounds (have 10-15 pounds I could stand to lose). Have taken out my dumbbells and done some upper body work, planning to buy some more plates to add on weight. Trying to figure out a leg workout I can do at home, squats and lunges and stuff.
My fear is, I'm visiting my mom soon and it may be hard. She believes not eating sugar is a sin, and just really acts like a minor amount of exercise is basically crossfit, when I would just like her to ignore me and let me do my thing. I'll have to hide in my room to do it but hopefully I can keep going. THERE'S ALWAYS SOMETHING, something that makes any teeny progress go back to the starting line!!
Good luck, square!
I'm sorry for your loss PI.
Square - that is admirable. The amount of courage and your convictions are just incentivizing. Go you!
Not sure if this is available for you - but on meetup there are running groups. Perhaps you can join one and someone would be willing to guide you. Or reach out to a running group and ask if someone would be interested. In my experience, runners are always looking for a reason to run. Good luck!
Thanks for starting this thread, jolie40. Interesting that you and several others have writing goals for the new year. My goal is to spend more time writing, and less thinking about what I plan to write! It is great to have ideas, but I need to put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard. The loss of my good friend really drove home, once again, how precious time is, and I want to stop wasting mine.
So sorry about your dog, Poison Ivy. You sound like a very good dog mom. Making that decision is never easy. Have had to make it several times for a variety of pets. May loving memories overshadow your grief, in the fullness of time. It's a hard time of year for grief, isn't it?
I have enjoyed reading everyone's posts. All the best to you for 2023! I wonder, do you think it would be helpful to keep this thread going, so that we can check back here from time to time and talk about how we're doing?
My main goals are (as usual) fitness related.
I reached a huge goal I'd been working towards for years last May, just before I had to undergo abdominal surgery. That was to do an unassisted pull up (or chin up). I managed the chin up.
I've been working back to fitness and my coach has finally allowed me to start going heavy again. My deadlift is almost back to where it was (80kg when it was 85kg). I need to get it back to 85kg. The next goal is 100kg, but I think that might be a bit much of an ask in one year. I can always try, though. My squat is nowhere near where it was, so there's that. I have just about got the chin up back but I also need to get the pull up and then be able to do more than one at a time.
So, yeah. Lots to do.
Wishing everyone well with their goals. And so sorry, Poison Ivy, that you needed to make that call this year. As you say, it never gets easier.
The larger of the two life insurance policies came through. We are now completely debt free. So that's one really, really big one off the list.
That is wonderful news, Andeza! Now for the Emergency Fund (if that's your next goal).
I find it interesting that so many in this thread are setting goals for health, fitness, finances, living more sustainably, decluttering and striving for a quieter, more simplified life, getting back to nature.
I think it's fabulous! And kind of goes along with a thread I started recently about minimalism, essentialism and slow living.
AOD
Ah, it is nice to read this thread filled with goals & optimism. I'm inspired. Here are some of mine:
Be the best mom I can to my 2 DDs. I've been in a bit of a stress/depression hole since Covid & moving to WFH & I think I've haven't been the mom I want to be to these young adult women.
Don't stress over work so much. I'll do the best I can & if that's not good enough, we will part ways. Life is too short!
Get back into reasonable running shape so I can do the end of season runs with my club
Start building new social activities to fill in for the isolation of WFH, as well as starting the framework for a post-retirement life. DH and I have joined a book club and started playing pickle ball with friends, and I've found a local nature center I'd like to volunteer at when the time comes.
And that's enough - don't over-commit yourself 😀
A couple of comments on others goals...
Square - I'd really like to quit sugar! I know it affects me very strongly & I would feel so much better if I did. The idea of it makes me anxious though - I realize that I use it a bit to make it through my day. Are you 100% no sugar, or more "no dessert"? Maybe I'll try a week at a time & see how it goes.
Also - my running group includes members with spinal cord injuries, deaf runners, one with "runner's dystonia" who has to run backwards (it's fascinating - look it up if you have a chance!). Plus many of the other members are frequently nursing some injury. The point being that there is always someone in the group needing to go slow & careful & there are always members happy to run with them and assist them. Runners are ridiculously friendly people when you get them together :tongue2:
Wisingup, I also used sugar as a crutch. I sometimes couldn't even sleep if I didn't get my fix. Also, after dinner I would feel a crash and would need something sweet, at least a bowl of cereal, to not be weak and useless.
This time, for some reason, quitting was easy from the start. I overate some sweets one day and just felt done, plus some other factors. But the time I did it before, I used fruit as a crutch. I allowed myself all the fruit I wanted. When I had a craving, an orange or an apple seemed quite disappointing to consider but after I made myself eat one, I felt much better. And after a few days I didn't need them any more.
I think quitting just desserts and sugary drinks is worthwhile, so if you're thinking you want to just do that, I think that would be fantastic! If a soda or sweet coffee is part of your day, you could consider just cutting down or putting fewer pumps of sugar into your order. I think anything you do will be beneficial. I find for myself just avoiding it works best to deal with my blood sugar ups and downs, so I feel steady all day now.
I am a fan of whole fruit (not juice), so I don't avoid those.
Happy New Year, Out of the FOG friends.
In reviewing 2022 I've found that Out of the FOG made a significant impact in my life this year. I held onto my own reality thanks to the witness and support of this community. I am acting with more self-respect and autonomy, even though things are wobbly at times. It feels like a new stability has entered my life.
In 2023, I want to continue developing a healthier relationship with myself. In January, I'll be doing a 30-day yoga series and meditation in the mornings to start my day. My intention is that this will help me begin the day with mindfulness. I've had some quirky health issues pop up at the end of this year, and I need to listen to my body and take care of myself.
I have other hopes for this year, and I'd love to participate on this thread throughout 2023 to check in on the year's progress. I'm trying to start small in January and hope to build in more goals as the year goes on. :phoot:
great goals everyone!
I'm joining a third writing group this month. The leader extended submission deadline for the anthology they're putting out this year. Very excited I've written a story to submit.
Quote from: Poison Ivy on December 09, 2022, 06:54:08 PM
I need a different goal for 2023. I decided to help my dear dog end her journey today. She was my fifth dog, and making the decision changes but never gets easier.
so sorry about the loss of your dog! it is SO tough
our 12 yr old dog collapsed in 2020 & ER vet said she had pancreatic cancer
they said surgery would only give her couple mos so we had to let go
bad part was because of covid, they wouldn't let us go in & say good-bye which was terrible
Quote from: mustard_seed on January 01, 2023, 06:18:44 PM
In January, I'll be doing a 30-day yoga series and meditation in the mornings to start my day.
sounds like a great goal!
let us know how it goes :yourock:
Jolie40, I'm sorry you couldn't be with your dog when she passed away in 2020. I understand how awful that was for you.
So here I am, less than one week into 2023 and planning to meet another dog in a few days. I think I'm ready. But a few things are giving me pause: (1) Did I give up too soon on my last dog? (2) Because of my age, perhaps I should be planning for this to be my final adoption. Aargh!
Poison, get a new dog. You are never to old, young or whatever. Get your dog. I wish I could have a dog but I am allergic.
Quote from: Poison Ivy on January 04, 2023, 02:35:40 PM
So here I am, less than one week into 2023 and planning to meet another dog in a few days. I think I'm ready.
how wonderful! what breed of dog?
I see lots of elderly people (over 70) around town walking dogs. I think a pet keeps one going. My 80 yr old neighbor lost her husband & she got a cat for company. She is so happy with that cat!
I don't know the breed: maybe a terrier and a hound mix? He's cute, he now has only three legs (an injured and never fixed leg was amputated last week), and he's friendly with people and with other dogs. This dog and another one were left behind when home owners or renters were evicted or chose to move. The dogs were fed by neighbors but otherwise were on their own for about four months, until an organization in the state several hundred miles from mine were notified and took them in. I have a huge soft spot for dogs in situations like this.
Step one of having third and final child is achieved. We're pregnant, now to just make it nine months and a healthy delivery.
Congratulations Andeza! :fireworks: :fireworks:
Congratulations, Andeza!
Quote from: Andeza on January 08, 2023, 04:45:05 PM
Step one of having third and final child is achieved. We're pregnant, now to just make it nine months and a healthy delivery.
Congratulations Andeza! :woohoo:
are you going to find out if it's a boy or girl?
Thanks y'all! Yes, we'll find out. We have with out others and we like knowing. :)
For 2023,
I want to have fun. I want to get into coding competitions. I want a job. I want to feel safe, and heal more.
how is everyone doing on their 2023 goals?
I joined a third writing group & look forward to the meetings
went to a women's retreat this month
I stayed an extra night @ hotel; it was nice to get away!
I adopted the three-legged dog. He ran away within an hour of coming into my house for the first time. A group of wonderful volunteers helped bring him back home one week later. My new goal for 2023: Don't let the dog out! At least, don't let the dog out when he's not on the leash with my hand holding the other end.
Quote from: Poison Ivy on January 30, 2023, 06:58:43 PM
A group of wonderful volunteers helped bring him back home one week later.
so glad you got him back!
we have two super long tie outs
I hook dog out front door to wait for kid to get off bus.....he gets super excited!
other one is in garage where I can hook him to go out side door to potty at 1 am
husband & kid take dog out on leash to potty
I prefer my way especially if cold outside
need to add additional goals for 2023:
1) get the 2022 taxes done on time or do the extension
2) do the 2021 taxes! I did the extension but October came & went & I didn't do them
luckily, IRS doesn't come after you if you're due a refund
3) after taxes done, start working on my piles of paper.....I'm horrible about paper stuff as each piece is a decision
(do I shred, do I keep, do I toss)
4) lose 10# this year
I lost wt couple yrs ago & am normal wt now.....just would like a buffer in case I gain any back
Quote from: Jolie40bad part was because of covid, they wouldn't let us go in & say good-bye which was terrible
Just saw this Jolie - I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to lay down my 18yr old purry boy in 2020 due to kidney failure, thankfully my vet had a new office with a "comfort room" where they allowed me to be with him and say goodbye. I was fully prepared to throw down and create a scene if not, I know it had to be awful for you.
:hug:
sorry for your loss! 18 yrs old, wow
thank you! it was tough
if we weren't in a state of shock, we could have insisted for her to come back out & us say "good-bye"
the whole covid thing messed everything up in 2020
Yes, life went hard sideways for so many. I hated having to drop off my boy on his very worst day, that I couldnt be with him. I sat in the parking lot until they called me with what I knew the news would be, then they let me in the side door. I was so grateful and they've remained my vet since!
Anyhoo - back to your regularly scheduled programming :blush:
now that we're into February, how are people doing with their 2023 goals?
Quote from: Jolie40 on February 14, 2023, 01:03:23 PM
now that we're into February, how are people doing with their 2023 goals?
I have not achieved many of the goals yet, but I am in a different place and feeling much happier. For me the big one is to finalise the divorce and that is getting closer. The other big one was to distance myself from the toxicity of FOO and I am doing very well there. The rest will come, I hope.
This year is going better than in the past.
I am down forty pounds and working weekly with a personal trainer. My goal to walk a 5k is certainly attainable and I plan on doing that this spring.
Sixty days and counting until I start my full time adventures.
My book is coming right along.
My daily meditations are really helping with mindfulness. In fact I made a series of decisions regarding my love life - cut out two men, dropped the apps, and just happier overall - all because I was able to see the thoughts and not react emotionally to them. I was able to recognize that they were not situations that worked for me. Not narcs or bad - just not for me. My codependency didn't even kick in. I do have one gentleman who is courting me from afar and is very supportive of my independent lifestyle; cheers me with my writing and allows me to call him on his bs without acrimony. It is a real revelation. Not sure if it will go anywhere but I am enjoying the ride.
All in all, life is up. Hope you are all feeling the same - sending you lots of love either way.
Justkeeptrying,
Congratulations on losing 40 lbs!
great your book is coming along, also
happy to hear about people working on their goals
My first 2023 goal was morning yoga and meditation. I probably did it 75% of the time in January, which felt pretty good.
I've gradually eased back into more intense workouts as my quirky health issues (possible long-Covid, but unsure) have gotten slightly better.
My March goals are: get more sunshine/time outside, put myself out there with prospective clients (I finally built a website for my contract work).
Am considering moving from VLC to LC with my sister and PD-mom... I need to do this *very* gradually and intentionally if I do.
Hope all are doing well :)
wonderful goals mustard seed!
yes to sunshine
feels good when the sun is out when walking the dog
Sadly I'm taking down that third baby goal. It's okay. I could tell for the last three weeks something wasn't right, and I'm going to listen to my body. We're talking about maybe adopting once the house is built.
Electricity is up and running on our property, just need to set up some water tanks and get out there. Should be interesting, and super quiet.
Progress is being made slowly on selling the estate. We'll get there.
Andeza - I am wrapping you in love, warmth and healing for your body and soul. Sending you light! JKT
Andrea, I'm so sorry. I pray you recover quickly physically and that your healing in all areas will be full of grace for yourself and much growth.
Your property sounds idyllic. I hope you can move there soon.
AOD
I'm sorry about your loss, Andeza.
Quote from: Andeza on March 09, 2023, 09:28:32 AM
Sadly I'm taking down that third baby goal. It's okay. I could tell for the last three weeks something wasn't right, and I'm going to listen to my body. We're talking about maybe adopting once the house is built.
sorry for your loss, Andeza
we adopted a child & it was the best thing husband & I ever did
Adenza, many apologies.... I've just noticed my post addressed you as Andrea.
I have so much trouble with auto correct. I really should learn how to turn it off.
I recently texted my ds that he could go to the police to collect his school photos! How auto correct got "police out of "office", I will never know.
At least it gave us a giggle. But it could get me into serious trouble one day...
So there's another 2023 goal for me: Learn how to turn of auto correct.
AOD
Thank you guys for the support, I really do appreciate it. I don't have family around me, and it's been really surprisingly hard to tell the people that are.
No worries AOD, autocorrect has some crazy ideas about what we try to type. It gets me all the time too!
One of my goals was to get a new car this year, I think I might have forgotten to add it, but we've just done that. Nice used car, not perfect, but I'm more about function then anything else.
Quote from: Andeza on March 18, 2023, 04:49:35 PM
One of my goals was to get a new car this year, I think I might have forgotten to add it, but we've just done that. Nice used car, not perfect, but I'm more about function then anything else.
any luck looking for a car?
thinking of getting a car, also
mine is a 2011 vehicle which I'm going to give to teen when she gets her temporary license this summer
I am dreading how much our car insurance goes up once she starts driving!
We did end up buying a car. Ironically the sales lady gave off intense PD vibes. Both hubby and I just looked at each other in a moment when she left us alone and just... mhmm. Yeah. It was really obvious.
Congratulations on the new car Andeza and special kudos on your PD radar!
Update on my goals:
In three days I embark on my full time travel journey of visiting the national parks in my little campervan. It has been a long journey to get here and I am anxious and excited.
I also almost walked a 5K without my cane - kind of. On a routine practice working up to the real thing, I got lost in the woods. Like really lost and in the mud, lost a shoe and part of my cane, crawling under briar and fallen trees, by the time I made it out I had clocked four miles. Far more than a 5K. I was tired but whole and overall it was a better test for my new adventures than a 5K.
I am still loosing weight and my mental and emotional health is really stablizing. So overall - great progress on my goals!
enjoy your travels Justkeeptrying!
my heart rate was 135 @ Dr office & she sent me for test & something is wrong with my heart
I get out of breath (started this year)
last year, before getting a Dr, I thought I was perfectly fine
now all of a sudden, I'm on 3 medications......this is depressing
I'm missing my writing groups cause the one med is giving me side effects & I don't want problems @ any writing meeting :(
It's not really a goal so much as an idea I've had for a few years, which doesn't seem to be fading.
I think I'd like to start a website/blog. The irony is that I have zero skills with computers and even less patience with them.
I've been looking online (YouTube mainly) to find out the how but it is completely overwhelming. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I go about it? Can you suggest any sites or books I can refer to? And bear in mind that I am a complete novice. Perhaps you could send me a personal message rather than clogging up this stream.
Thanks in advance.
AOD
What a wonderful idea AoD. I have thought about this many times myself but never got going. There are many different sites to create blogs, the one I uses when trying was to complex for me despite my technical background (I never read rhe instructions properly). If you search on the Internet you should get many various sites, there should also comparison sites which details the difference between them.
Good luck and what an exciting thing to dive into.
Thanks, EM. I've looked at many and various videos. Many comparison ones and many how to's. I seem to get only so far before I'm completely lost.
I think ideally I'd find a person to set up and run the actual website and I just do the writing and design suggestions.
Anyway, we'll see. Maybe you could forge the path ahead of me!
AOD
Quote from: Associate of Daniel on May 30, 2023, 05:53:22 AMI think I'd like to start a website/blog.
Hi AOD,
I've done a couple blogs. One was of my husband's travels & one when child was young.
They were both only for people I know since I'm big on privacy.
If you're on Facebook, you could "practice" doing posts daily for your followers, see how that goes, & then decide if you want to go big.
I can't quite believe I'm saying this.... I've started building a website!!!!
I have ZERO idea of what I'm doing and I keep getting lost in the process. But I started.
Go me!
Thank-you for your encouragement and suggestions. We'll see how long I last..
Hurray for you, Associate of Daniel!