"Disarming the Narcissist" by Wendy T. Behary

[Latchkey]

Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
by Wendy T. Behary


Paperback: 184 pages
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (March 1, 2008)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1572245190
ISBN-13: 978-1572245198



Summary from Amazon:

How can you handle the narcissistic people in your life? They're frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. You might need to interact with some of them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so sometimes it just doesn't work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments. Disarming the Narcissist offers a host of effective strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe.
Disarming the Narcissist will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

Review:
I found this book while trying to look for reading on Schema Therapy. Excellent to help explain the dynamics and help you figure out your part in the Narcissistic relationship whether it is a spouse, a parent, a co-worker or a child. I recommend it a lot here and hope others find it helpful. It is not all doom and gloom but it is realistic on what to expect and pretty easy to read and understand.

[MaggieMayCat]

Just got done working through this book.  It has some very good information about the interactions between the PD and their target and how to minimize the damage they can inflict.  Only one caveat, some of it is a bit simplistic and maybe a little bit naive(?)... but all in all it is a good way to look at the problem.  The deconstructive methodology of dealing with schema was very helpful.  I do recommend this book.   

[scaredwithfaith]

Just downloaded and started reading today.

[blackberry wine]

I just read in the blurb about the book that there's a relationship between narcissism and sex addiction. Fascinating. I mean, seeing it written like that, it's like a bomb just went off.

[Shell92127]

I just finished this book and thought it was great! It gives examples of things you can SAY and DO to empower yourself.
5 stars !