Hoover- nice, then nasty

[Hattie]

Thanks, Whiteheron. From the limited amount my therapist has told me about herself, I think she prob suffered abuse/ neglect as a kid, but maybe not as an adult. So I am not sure she fully gets everything that is involved in a relationship with a narc partner. In particular, I don't think she gets the no contact thing... she seems to think you should communicate with your ex until you have both said all you have to say about a breakup. But I feel with narcs that all you get in return is loads of invalidation and nastiness.

Helpful to know this is a common problem with therapists... and I'm glad you followed your gut instinct... that is something to aspire to