Out of the FOG

Coping with Personality Disorders => Dealing with PD In-Laws => Topic started by: Call Me Cordelia on February 03, 2019, 05:10:31 PM

Title: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: Call Me Cordelia on February 03, 2019, 05:10:31 PM
Too funny not to share. So my DH was on the phone with his Nmom today. Our son's birthday is coming up. She was banned from sending presents at Christmas. So for his birthday she was going to mail gifts to DH's office, and asked DH to take photos of our son opening them all and send them to her without telling me anything!!! Like I wouldn't find out about a preschooler's presents.  :stars:

DH said no way was he going to go along with this. Her response was, "Well, if you don't want a relationship with me then fine!" And hung up on him.  :hoovering:

Do you think she finally gets it?   :applause: Sadly, I'm sure the answer is no. A little recap: we cut her out of my life and the kids' after she sent me five pages of classic narcissism to "open the conversation." I never responded, so she thinks she did everything she could and was so nice and I'm just being evil.
Title: Re: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: HotCocoa on February 03, 2019, 05:23:17 PM
My inlaws used to send Christmas presents to my ex at his work for himself and our children that he would have to load up and bring home. 
Literally NO ONE else in the company did this.
I used to tell him this is so weird and not normal.  I would ask him why they are so secretive?  Just send them to our house.
It's also totally inappropriate.
He never saw the light, and he was also let go from that job.
I'm glad your husband gets it!  :thumbup:
Title: Re: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: Spirit in the sky on February 04, 2019, 01:17:39 AM
That's awful Call me Cordelia, I really dislike the whole 'don't tell' mindset.

We get the same thing ' It's that how you feel, we are finished..' Although there are usually a few F words in sentence.

Two minutes late she phones back, if we don't answer she texts.

I don't think they will EVER get it, which is soooooo frustrating!
Title: Re: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: bloomie on February 05, 2019, 11:26:13 AM
Call Me Cordelia - well handled by your DH!
Title: Re: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: Call Me Cordelia on February 05, 2019, 01:00:30 PM
I know, right??? He's grown a lot in the last couple of months. He didn't even consider calling her back!  :uhhuh:
Title: Re: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: Entj on February 19, 2019, 01:50:18 PM
Wow that's so inappropriate on so many levels!
Glad your husband had your back!  :waveline: :waveline: :waveline:
Title: Re: Secret birthday presents???
Post by: all4peace on February 19, 2019, 06:07:31 PM
Really nicely handled by your DH! What a relief!