Reality bites

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I hope you never, ever consider reconciling with this dangerous person.

If you feel the kids are safer with him visiting at your house you may be stuck with that for a few years. Consult a lawyer.

I would set a boundary as to the number of times a week. 3 being the maximum. If he challenges this legally then he does. But you can't have him there every day. It's not healthy for you.