A new approach

[absolutelynope]

Hello, newbie here. I'm in my late 30s, female and the only child of an emotionally unstable, widowed mother. I have started psychotherapy and my therapist thinks she is likely to have borderline PD. I think there's touches of narcissism and histrionic in there too. I have got to the point where I can't take the guilt tripping any longer so here I am!

My therapist thinks if I can start to be kinder and more compassionate to myself, I have a chance of having a healthier relationship with my mother. I look forward to reading and contributing to these forums in my quest!

[Penny Lane]

Welcome! That sounds like a really great goal and I hope these forums can help you. Look forward to hearing more from you on the boards.

[guitarman]

Welcome. You are not alone.

Your mother sounds like my undiagnosed BPD/NPD sister.

Be a lighthouse not a lifeboat.
Observe don't absorb.
Stay calm.

Best wishes

guitarman X

[absolutelynope]

Thank you both!

Guitarman I like your suggestions. I definitely try to be a lifeboat. It's not working!

[treesgrowslowly]

Hi absolutelynope. Great Name!!

Yes. The focus on ourselves is key.

Guilt tripping is rough.

Many people on this site are here to share their insights.

New self care practices can feel exciting and a bit scary, but taking time to listen to yourself gets easier and easier.

Good luck with your next steps! See you on the boards.