I think I might be seeing an end to the storm, maybe. Just know things are coming together and happening that may just shift the narrative.
That's great news! You and your kids are in my thoughts. :hug:
Same here.
One of the hardest things I think, is finding a way to actually change that narrative. We found ourselves caught in 1 narrative that we hated but could not change. It stayed that way for far too long. I hope for your sake that this works out for you, because any bit of change makes the next change get easier.
Yes it is especially once CPS is involved because god forbid they admit they are wrong. And that has been what this has all been about, when cps was called on her she played switchback to get out of the hot seat, found a sympathetic ear of a caseworker who just happens to be a misandrist and a forensic interviewer willing to "cook the books" on the interview. And cps in my county fell for it. But in light of certain events I do believe the narrative is changing.
Wow, I am really hoping so. Anyidea on when the next thing might happen?
Could be tomorrow, the GAL couldn't tell me alot without my lawyer, but he is pissed about what happened with my son. And cps in her county has officially had an acetylene torch lit under their asses.
Ok wow, stuff is happening. Finally.
Yeah Im just worried about what, will they give me the kids, will it get turned around and pit me further in the hole, will he (ex's husband) get mad and do something. Im a nervous wreck.
Yeah, can't blame you for that. Hoping for the best outcome.
So am I, Oh I found out what is going on with my daughter over there, she has become the family scapegoat in everything, they even have the kids blaming her for whats going on.
I just can't imagine what the poor girl is going through. I wonder if she would tell the GAL she would like to live with you.
She had....in both counties, i was cleared in her county in march two days later it was referred to my county strangely the same day my ex recieved the custody court papers
Lord my really has some nerve, she is still dictating to me what I am to get my kids for birthdays, etc. she gave me a list worth $600 plus I have to buy my daughter a new bed, my ex chose a $500 bunk bed. Im trying to get furniture for my apartment. I cant do everything. Ive bought they're groceries for the past two months, paid their cable, bought gas for her car. Plus paid child support which my lawyer reminded me was never ordered.
That is some entitlement.
Well I had my second parenting class today, I dont know what the hell was her problem today. She was arrogant, mean, and argumentative. Yes I got upset that I have to register as a sex offender when that wasnt even what I was charged with. She told me basically the papers said I did it so I did it, and if I want my kids back I had to comply, I never said I wouldn't comply but I will never admit to hurting my babies when I didnt.
The system sure wasn't made for PDs, that's for sure. It doesn't understand them and doesn't work when applied to them.
Your focus right now needs to be standing up as the best parent you can possibly be, healing yourself with some peace (I highly recommend Mindfulness Meditation), and seeking and following your attorney's best advice on legal matters.
I hope your children seem healthy and open when you see them.
I dont see them and my son is in bad shape, he needs therapy and i dont think she's doing it
Well best of luck getting the process back on the rails, and finding some healing space for yourself as you work through all this.
Still hoping for things to turn around. I'm bothered by the registry, though. Ilmy understanding is you'd need a conviction. I hope this is something that can be undone as it could be used against you. So I'm worried.
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This is a complex matter with many legal issues and background facts beyond our kin.
Let's focus on the PD issues and healing, leaving the legal process and decisions to the attorneys, please
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Lol agreed starboard
Lord have mercy i feel i have been thrown under the bus...keep your fingers crossed I have a feeling all hell is going to break loose on the 21st.
:((((
Let the TRUTH prevail!
Hopefully it will
Wish me luck in court on Wednesday Its going to get crazy Im afraid, They dont know what they are dealing with with my ex, Ive tried to warn them, but they just disregard it I honestly think that my lawyer is starting to believe what Im saying as is the GAL. So keep me and mine in your thoughts.
Wednesday is the day, then. Will put out good thoughts for you. Let us know.
Thank you and I definitely will
My ex just informed me she gave our daughter up to the state to put in the hospital. And somehow its proof of my character and my agenda that i got upset about it.
I just can't get my head ariund this total absence of empathy she has for her own children.
She texted a minute ago and said my daughter called her to have her tell me she loves me and Happy Father's Day
:-X
I wish she was spending it with you.
Me too instead the poor baby is spending alone in a hospital
IF the only person telling you your child is IN the hospital, "given up to the State" is your ex..... why do you believe your child is in the hospital right now?
Because she has been trying to do it since March, but honestly I dont know what to believe, but my ex just called and my daughter isnt there so I hope its the hospital shes in.
My lawyer says the hearing is Wednesday my ex swears the hearing is the 29th, dear god will the incompetency ever end?
Sigh.
If she doesn't show, will they just leave it hanging or avtually start enforcing some consequences?
I can't imagine not showing up for court and considering it nbd.
Good luck tomorrow.
I got some eh interesting? News today, it seems there is a very good chance the court may take the kids from my ex, they may or may not let me have them back, but even if they dont, I get to choose where they go.
And yes it is Tomorrow and yes if she doesn't show there will be consequences, and if she does I text message proof of her trying to mislead me. And finally she claimed today my daughter may get to come home friday.
Will be looking for good updates tomorrow.
Good luck today!
She was a no show, they postponed it until the 29th.
I... don't even understand. If I didn't shiw for court they'd find me in cintemot, fine me, and rule against me. She doesn't show, they reschedule for a date more convenient to her?
Tell me the judge at least knew she didn't show and seemed vaguely annoyed?
I didnt even get to see the judge and the cps worker avoided me like the plage. I didnt even get to go in the courtroom
Yeah just let that one go.
Also, stop talking to her.
Quote from: square on June 23, 2022, 12:35:32 PM
Yeah just let that one go.
Also, stop talking to her.
:yeahthat:
I cannot believe what she gets away with. It's outrageous, and I'm sorry for all of the hell you and your kids are going through.
Ty Ducky, Im trying to not talk to her, she hits me up first thing in the morning an drills me all day about the stuff for my daughters b-day, and shes still hitting me for child support.
My daughter is in fact in State custody, they took her out of one hospital, it wasn't the "right" treatment for her and are going to put her in yet another hospital.
I'm so sorry she's going through this horrific ordeal.
They are destroying that baby and they seem to think its just a game, they dont get that she is ADHD and Autistic pushing downers down throat is like giving a "normal" person an od of caffeine. Thats why shes wound up like an 8 day clock.
And still all that woman cares about is money and what I can do for her...Im just flabbergasted and sick.
I pray this'll come togethersomehow and you'll get the kids.
How can I compete when CPS is siding with her telling her everything I say, telling her they know im a liar and they know my game and they are going to crucify me for it.
I don't know, I don't know why they are failing so bad, I wish I could change it. It's not right at all.
She can speak to her lawyer at will, speak to CPS...at will ... I have to wait til monday to speak to my attorney and cps runs away from me. She called me and harrassed me for 2 hrs over what Ive said to cps, and I. Know they told her because she knew word for word what Ive said.
They are claiming DARVO on me and refusing to give me the chance to fight it.
Oh God I can sleep I cant help worrying about my babygirl praying to God they didnt lock up in Juvie she will never survive in the, and my ex is taking off somewhere tomorrow like nothings even happened.
I'm so sorry :(
And what's important to this woman? Planning vacation 😐
She seems to have psychopathy.
And getting that $600 wothr of toys and beds from me. She's been blowing up my phone all day over it but not a word about our daughter
Ok so I applied for HUD and I have about 8 job apps floating around, I even put one in for ALDI... hell $25 and to train to manage...yar damn skippy I did. Wish me luck on that front.
Hey that sounds awesome best of luck
Once I get my apartment I've enlisted the help of about twenty people...my daughter wants a Harry Potter universe in her bedroom? Shes gonna get one! All out no stops!
I had something amazing happen to me today, I was driving to Walmart and saw a super bright super clear rainbow, I thought about my daughter and said if you are seeing this rainbow know I am thinking about you, love you and will never stop fighting for you, two seconds after saying that a second rainbow appeared next to the first.
That's freaking beautiful. I hope you can talk to her about it soon.
I came home and bawled like a baby...first cry Ive had in a long while
Another wonderful night of no sleep GOD this is getting so old
Well I go to court in acouple hours, I had a rather optimistic conversation with my lawyer Monday, and a very good life skills class yesterday. It seems that perhaps my attorney and cps may have finally bought themselves a clue, and started figuring out my ex's game. My attorney stated that cps said this has ended up not being the case they thought it was going to be when they filed it. Not sure what it means, but cant be good for ex, and they are livid that my ex kept my sons "incident" from and also hid the fact that she no longer has our daughter. So I will update when I get home
Good luck!!!
Good luck!
They sent my daughter to an entirely diff State they didnt do Jack shit to my ex for anything, and the case is getting bounced back to her county
She lets our son do what he did and im still no contact and she still gets to keep them
I knew not to get optimistic about it
Oh boy.... I'm so sorry. It's an absolute travesty.
She started texting and calling me as soon as my ass hit my carseat I left my attorney a very heated message as him to let me know when shes finally going to get in trouble for her actions so I can pencil in the date, Im starting to get really pissed off at her getting away with everything and im getting raking over the coals while she gloats over it
No kidding, GT.
I feel for you GT, unfortunately I know how you feel. It's very frustrating when the authorities don't get it and just move things around not doing anything. I just had a hearing where they basically told me uNPDx can do what she like with one if my daughters for another 2 months whilst investigating the suitability. During that time she apparently can stop me from seeing my daughter using parental alienation. At least I still have one daughter with me, but it still hurts.
My ex still has GC daughter, but is "sent off" SG daughter is firmly turning her against me and my family. Its crazy she actually got into a 4 hr fight with my mom for suggesting send our daughter to an autistic school, meets this new guy and "oh its for her own good shes getting the help she needs to get past what you people did to her". And I mean you name it shes done it, broke no contact, had me buy her damn groceries for three months, texts me taunting me, skips court dates, irresponsibilly lets our son nearly die.... And she still keeps the kids, and im still no contact. And she so smug about it going back to her county, hell about everything cause she knows she has them eating out of her hand, and the caseworker my daughter has is the one who started all of this last winter, and to beat all my ex is rubbing going on vacation in my face. I just dont know what to do anymore, with that woman as caseworker im going to jail period and my sisters too. And I know my daughter was coached because its not a coincidence that the charges against us are a) accusations my daughter allegedly made against her stepdad and brother and b) stuff my ex hollered about last fall. Im running out of fight, i feel im not even allowed to fight, been told repeatedly it doesn't matter what evidence i have all that matters is the interview, and my ex has informed me my daughter has added more to it.
I just feel like I keep being victimized by her and now by the system. Im going to miss my daughter's b-day and she was rubbing in face that her and her husband are throwing her a party and wants me to by presents and meet her somewhere so she can get them and give them to her
You need to go no contact with your ex, you never get the strength to fight letting her mess with you like this.
We are supposed to be no contact she keeps breaking it reapeatedly nobody will do any to her for it, or anything she does, it just blows me away they chalked my son alcohol incident and being in a 24 hr coma with tubes in every part of his body "boys will be boys" did nothing to her for suppling it, i would have been under the jail
GT, before I even read EM's post I was thinking, you've got to go no contact. Your ex is draining you away and you're going crazy trying to sort the truth from the lies. SG may or may not have added to the claim.
You are a big boy. You can block her ass. What is she gonna do? Block her block her block her. You gotta get your strength back. Block her and stay blocked. She shows up asking for money, call the cops. Call the cops on the woman who is doing this to your children, you can do it, no contact order.
Ok i will i gotta do that
It kills me to block her.....im going to it just its my only way of hearing about the kids. And I cant blame SG that baby is just a pawn in this game the fault lies squarely on my ex and the caseworker. So I am blocking her.
Block her. She is whittling you away. The information you get is full of lies anyway and all of it isto her benefit and yoyr detriment.
Block her. It's hard. Keep her blocked. Get through a day. Then another day. Blocked.
Plan in your head what you'll do if she shows up or sends a flying monkey. Whatever it is, stay blocked.
Firgwt her sob stories about how she needs $467854600000 because the kids are starving. SHE is the one starving the kids while she goes on vacation. You're just her ATM.
Get mad. You don't deserve this.
Stay mad.
Stay blocked.
Agreed of course, oh her beloved husband that supports them o so well....quit his job....shes going back to work
Supposedly
Oh, you are going to get hit up for money bigtime.
Use that money to buy a lawyer who knows what they are doing.
I'm serious.
Whatever sob story may leak through your block... NO.
And if your kids are supposedly not getting food, medicine, shelter, clothes, CPS should know about it. You're legally forbidden contact.
There is a way you can maybe turn this around and it starts with no contact.
Very true, very true, and I am already being hit up big time, my attorney told me tell her to contact cps of child services for assistance i did she told me it wasn't her responsibility.
Whose ______ing responsibility are her children then??
Mine
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