Sheer joy in being alone

[CoffeeCup2]

Hey everyone,

I've been noticing that I crave solitude, a little more than usual, and it brings me great joy and relief.

I have a friend that constantly invites me out to do things, in an attempt to get me to meet more people, socialize more, etc. The problem with that is that I'm exhausted after a day of work and I feel like I need to go home and do my thing.

I think with uNPDx, I never got time to myself. When I did, I knew I had to eventually go home to him. I used to look forward to days I had all to myself, and loathe days I knew I would have to cater to everyone else but myself.

I get that I'm now in my forties, I'm single, etc. I don't care. People are shocked I am not actively dating (don't want to yet). I just want to be completely by myself 95% of the time. There are days I feel like socializing, there are days I do not. It's simple.

I just love doing what I feel like doing

[Goldielocks]

#metoo. The only time that I can properly, really relax is when I'm on my own. I look forward to time by myself . Hopefully you can manage to say "no" when you want to without upsetting your friend too much. I don't know why people concern themselves so much with those of us who find solitude to be a good thing.

[Associate of Daniel]

This is me as well.

Being alone helps me to work out who I am.

It's also what I need to deal with the constant abuse of my uNPD exH.

That and working with kids in 6 schools. My days are noisy. And I'm  constantly having to put the children's needs before my own.

My house and my me time are extremely important to my well being.

I'm also not one for socialising much anyway.  I guess I'm a bit of an introvert.

AOD

[Artemis T]

I'm in my 30's and I'm quite comfortable with being un-partnered. I have no desire to date, re-marry, or anything and have always enjoyed solitude. My friends have encouraged me to get out and listen to live music and hang out with them, but thankfully they all understand that dating is not where my head is at and will not be at for a very very VERY long time.

I like my activities and growing list of hobbies.

It's great that you're getting to a place where you're comfortable and loving the peace and space you're establishing for yourself!

[Cascade]

I really enjoy being alone and as an introvert I feel like I need to be alone to truly relax. I have a co-worker who is constantly planning social events and inviting me to them. It's gotten to the point where I try to avoid for fear of being invited to her next event.

[1footouttadefog]

I like both solitude and socializing. 

I think it's great to be alone as long as it is what you want. 

But friendships take time also paths I walked forward over with weeds and thorns. 

Balance and moderation.