odd public behaviors

[tragedy or hope]

I could write pages on what happened at the airport yesterday. Resistance to mask wearing thoah signs are everywhere to the point where unpdh was asked if attendant needed to get someone to speak to him. Everyone in a mask, he is in her face as she is doing her job. Something about getting close facially for him... as much as possible with women.
Later, after taking up a chunk of time at the xray, like a child needed to be told every small thing he needed to do as if he had never been to an airport. He takes up extra time having to come out of the machine b/c he did not remove his belt, because he doesn't listen he is just concerned for how it all looks and if he is getting attention. Twice through the machine, reluctantly with the mask on now...
Gets stopped for a quick pat around the shoulders...  comes out haughty laughing at the people doing their job looking at me.
Calls me over... which at this point, I do not want to be near him in his crisis. I am waiting for him to hit the edge where the escort him out. He makes it thru...

He calls me over, because now he knows he looks foolish and wants "support." reluctantly I walk over while he is taking his time at the exit getting his stuff together. He asks me to hold his gate pass... AS IF!!!

I showed him how he can put it in the bin until he is done and walked away. This was only the start of weird. q1`

[Andeza]

I was suddenly reminded of the recounting of Abigail and Nabal. I'm not sure if you're familiar with it, if not I definitely recommend it as there might be something there for you. Just a feeling in my spirit... the message is not for me though.

Very pd type behavior overall though. They act like children, naughty children, that must have their way. I hope the attendant stood her ground and didn't give him an inch and didn't flinch. I had to deal with a handful of people like that in my last job, and when you don't back down and keep calm, they usually have no idea how to respond and back down themselves.

[tragedy or hope]

 it is just so good to leave this stuff here. it rattles around in my thoughts until it gets bigger  life. Thank you for your affirmation. 

[notrightinthehead]

Oh dear! I had to laugh at your description of the scene at the airport. That reminded me so much of travelling with my NPDh.  In the first years of my marriage I tried to be supportive, keep everything calm, and was sugary sweet.  Later I froze and became a statue from the embarrassment and shame I felt. In the latter years I  moved away, felt this had nothing to do with me, and watched the drama unfold like watching a soap opera. Like you, I walked away and let him have his fun. 

[1footouttadefog]

There must be a pd at airport class.

I hate the "Ralph Camden" public behaviors.  We pretty much avoid going out places with my pdh.  I take him with me when I run errands and he will eat where he wants.  The kids and I go out separately to avoid the embarrassment.

[Mary]

 

Oh dear! I had to laugh at your description of the scene at the airport. That reminded me so much of travelling with my NPDh.  In the first years of my marriage I tried to be supportive, keep everything calm, and was sugary sweet.  Later I froze and became a statue from the embarrassment and shame I felt. In the latter years I  moved away, felt this had nothing to do with me, and watched the drama unfold like watching a soap opera. Like you, I walked away and let him have his fun.