Challenge

[LightofGold]

Hello,

I'll make a long story short.

I had absolutely no idea how hard it would be to get out of a relationship.
I'm currently still in it. Is leaving a narcissist as dangerous as I've read and heard it is?
Does anyone believe that a PD person is "just talking" when they mean to create consequences, or am I right to believe that he would? Because I really do believe that he would. People tell me it could be empty talk, but I disagree.

This situation consumes my whole life.

There's too much to write about in one post so I'll leave it to my current inner thoughts for now.

Thank you for reading!

[xredshoesx]

welcome to the group

my ex was never formally diagnosed but breaking up with him was certainly a full time job once it finally happened.  please do what ever you can to be safe.  i can share the emergency links with you so in case you need help, you have a resource on the ready.  we had already had several DV situations and an active court case with orders of protection by the time i finally ended it and he came back HARD trying to suck me back into the relationship for close to 6 months after i put his stuff out.

Here is a link on creating a Safety Plan or Kit and a checklist for leaving:
http://womenshealth.gov/violence-against-women/get-help-for-violence/safety-planning-for-abusive-situations.html

Personal Safety
http://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/2015/12/3/ensure-your-own-personal-safety

Put Children First
http://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/2015/12/3/put-children-first  - not sure if this is your situation from what you shared but just in case-

To avoid circular conversations, don't JADE Justify Argue Defend Explain
http://outofthefog.website/what-not-to-do-1/2015/12/3/jade-dont-justify-argue-defend-explain

Keep reading and posting! Please give us an update when you can. We are here for you when you are ready to share more

[LightofGold]

Thank you so much for the helpful websites! I've never come across them before, and I think you may have just given me new hope in moving forward! I truly appreciate the advice and having a strong support group is a must!

I'm so glad I joined this site!

[guitarman]

Welcome. You are not alone.

Any threats should be taken seriously. This is abuse. Abusers are all about power and control.

Please take a look at the videos by the counsellor and author Kris Godinez. She specialises in Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome and how targets of abuse can cope better.

She gives live talks most Sundays on her YouTube channel called "We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez". Her past talks are archived on her YouTube and Facebook sites.

I've found her very helpful and insightful.

Trust your gut not your head or your heart. Please keep safe.

Best wishes

guitarman X

[LightofGold]

Thank you so much for the information, guitarman!
I appreciate both you and redshoes for the help. I know I need to do something, but taking that first step is very difficult.

The hardest thing is not knowing what the outcome will be.

I guess it takes true courage to find out!