"Farewell Sex"??

[noregrets]

My stbx and I have been married for 28 years, separated for 5, and are in the final stages of our divorce, and he actually pulled the same thing!  He showed up at my house and wrapped his arms around me and started passionately kissing my neck and I had to fight to get loose. I was stunned. We haven't had sex since we separated but he wanted to "try something different" to turn things around and try to make our marriage work. Rape?  He was greatly offended when I said he had frightened me. He has brought up sex before. I have told him in the past that we can't get back together but we can try to be friends and he said that was fine, but he thought we should have sex on a regular basis as well. 

Anyway, my advice is to document everything. Every time something like this happens (he shows up at my house on a regular basis and refuses to leave), I immediately send an email documenting in very factual terms what happened.  It creates a document trail that will be helpful in the future if you need a restraining order etc.  If you end up in divorce court, it also prevents a he said/she said type situation and lets the judge know what you are dealing with.   Also, I strongly advise you install a security camera in your home for your own protection. 

[1footouttadefog]

The sex could I terfere with the divorce or change the dynamics and parameters of the agreements. Do discuss with the lawyer.

Also, it's purely for his gain.  A manipulation in perhaps several fro ts.

The pics and videos that would likely be made will make it so he has left his mark on you.  They is a good. Hance they would become revenge porn to be shared with his buddies and perhaps websites.  Also, he could even give then to any new partners of yours via mail or such.

This whole thing is ugly on several fro ts. I would not want to remain living together after such deep objectification.