There are extraordinary facets to parenting a person with the traits of a personality disorder (but I'm guessing you already knew that). Whether our child is - by chronological age - an adult, an adolescent, or younger, there just isn't some magic manual for dealing with the frustration, resentment, guilt, helplessness, and all the other states of mind that can overwhelm us and our lives. Then, of course, there is love - always love... even when it seems it may be all dried up, it's not.
One doesn't have to be a biological parent or have the 'traditional nuclear' family to find camaraderie, support, knowledge, and solace here in the Parenting section of Out of the FOG [fear, obligation, and guilt]. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, adoptive and foster parents, step-parents, caretakers... all spectrums of those who are responsible for nurturing a child with personality disorder traits can benefit while also contributing to these conversations. Here we find an opportunity to express ourselves in a special give and take. It's all good...
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Here are some links to resources parents may find useful:
Out of the FOG -Children (https://outofthefog.website/relationships-1/2015/12/6/children-who-hurt-themselves-and-others) - Main Parenting Information Page on our Website
Out of the FOG- Books (https://outofthefog.website/books) - Our books page contains some recommendations under the "Books for Parents" Section
Parenting Links (http://outofthefog.website/links/#ParentsLinks) - Links to other sites containing resources for parents.
Links to relevant books [via Amazon.com]:
New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder: (http://www.amazon.com/Hope-People-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0761525726/ref=sr_1_7/104-5161194-8745526?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1193752070&sr=1-7) Your Friendly, Authoritative Guide to the Latest in Traditional and Complementary Solutions, by Neil R. Bockian, PhD; Nora Elizabeth Villagran; and Valerie Porr
Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents: (http://www.amazon.com/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Adolescents-Understanding/dp/1592332870/ref=sr_1_4/104-5161194-8745526?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1193752070&sr=1-4) A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has BPD, by Blaise A. Aguirre, MD
Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified: (http://www.amazon.com/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Demystified-Understanding/dp/1569244561/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/104-5161194-8745526?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1193752070&sr=1-1) An Essential Guide for Understanding and Living with BPD, by Robert O. Friedel, MD
Borderline Personality Disorder (http://www.amazon.com/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-John-Gunderson/dp/0880480203/ref=sid_dp_dp/104-5161194-8745526) by John G. Gunderson, MD
Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Professionals and Famlies (http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/1585621358/ref=sr_1_18/104-5161194-8745526?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1193752630&sr=1-18) by John G. Gunderson, MD
Other informational websites:
The DBT Clinical Resource Directory (http://www.behavioraltech.com/resources/crd.cfm) of Behavioral Tech LLC, founded by Dr. Marsha Linehan, PhD, ABPP.
TARA (http://tara4bpd.org) - The Treatment and Research Advancements Association for Personality Disorder, headed by Valerie Porr.
DBT Program at McLean (http://www.mclean.harvard.edu/patient/child/atp.php) Hospital of Harvard Medical School in Belmont, MA.
Also...
A comprehensive overview of BPD (http://www.emedicine.com/ped/topic270.htm#section~clinical) in the Pediatrics portion of eMedicine, by Elizabeth A Finley-Belgrad, MD (last updated May 3, 2006).
The Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking (http://outofthefog.website/what-not-to-do-1/2015/12/13/stinkin-thinkin-the-ten-forms-of-twisted-thinking) and Ten Ways to Untwist Your Thinking (http://outofthefog.website/what-not-to-do-1/2015/12/13/stinkin-thinkin-the-ten-forms-of-twisted-thinking), from "The Feeling Good Handbook" by David D. Burns, MD.
If you have additional info that you'd like to see linked here, please let jrrr (http://board.nook2.com/Out_of_the_FOG/index.php?showuser=15) or any one of the administrators know!
While personality disorders are not clinically diagnosed in children, some traits of personality disorders can begin to manifest themselves from adolescence. Parents and family of children of all ages are welcome to share here. Please remember when dealing with minors it is especially important to consult with and follow the direction of an appropriately qualified mental health professional.
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