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Getting Started => The Welcome Mat => Topic started by: Ahimsa on April 28, 2018, 01:37:43 PM

Title: Glad to be here
Post by: Ahimsa on April 28, 2018, 01:37:43 PM
Good Morning, Iím in my early 60s, made a career transition from communications  into health philanthropy. Iím also a fiber artist. I have one older brother who lives 3 hours from me. Iím a lifelong caregiver for my mother who was diagnosed in the last 3 years with histrionic PD, unresolved PTSD from childhood trauma of WW2, grief  and depression from the loss of a family member who she was highly emotionally dependent upon before he died in 2015. None of this was news to me. Iím still learning to cope with her manic behavior and now she is experiencing early dementia. She can behave quite abusively and Iíve learned to stand up and let her know when itís not acceptable for me and why I am leaving the moment with her.  She is still motivated with a learning mind, yet succumbs to depression and isolation. She lives 45 minutes away in a (sweet) low income apartment complex nestled in a very affluent community. I found her home after waiting a couple of years,  after she was forced to leave her home which became uninhabitable. She was in dire living conditions and was caught in the payday loan debt cycle. That was 13 years ago. I also relocated her into a new county system was appointed her representative payee. I oversee the part time in-home care giver and  all her basic living expenses. She has a strong personality and I feel sheís lucky to have so much support. I try to not control her everyday life. My brother is less engaged From the day to day events of  my mothers care. Iíve learned that I can be angry with the sick behavior, and not the individual. But at times it can be very difficult to also have a life of my own too. She is 86 yrs. Weíve always had a rocky relationship, I have learned to take the good with the bad. Iím glad I found this forum. Thank you!
Title: Re: Glad to be here
Post by: all4peace on April 28, 2018, 01:42:35 PM
Ahimsa, welcome! I'm glad you have found us here. It sounds like you've already done a lot of work in understanding your M, and how to sort out her PD diagnosis from her humanity, to honor both.
I have found it helpful to read through old threads, to get a sense of the community and how people cope with similar problems.

We're glad you're here and hope to hear more from you when you're ready!
Title: Re: Glad to be here
Post by: Ahimsa on April 28, 2018, 01:48:30 PM