I'm finding this website very helpful in terms of dealing with the PD. I've seen others post on this site about this woman's methods: Here's a link:
http://www.nicolamethodforhighconflict.com/
I'm curious if the "When you said that it seemed like you felt I did something wrong" would work with my PD.
In my imagination I think she would say something like "of course you did. You didn't do your share of the laundry and that is so HURTFUL (clutches chest and tears up) and you are disrespecting me and blah blah blah. You are an entitled and horrible and lazy person"
But, maybe it will work, as it looks like it has for others.
What I get from reading is that it may change the course of the conversation to something more constructive (GOOD)
Or, I surmise that if it consistently does NOT work, at least I would know I tried everything, and that perhaps this unchosen relationship needs to end. (Also could be GOOD). After all, if I am an entitled and horrible and lazy person in her eyes, why would either of us want to continue a relationship?