I've been having some success in dealing with narcissists by detaching and deflecting their comments. I was looking for more information, and found this video that discusses the process of managing your emotions and using of the grey rock/medium chill technique with specific examples.
Link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dc_ZOjt0QFA
Author description of video:
"Chances are you already know at least 1 manipulator, whether in your family, at work, in your social groups or just random strangers in public. The ideal scenario is to walk away. However sometimes that's not possible immediately.
In this video, I’ve got 5 ways to help you disarm a toxic person and opt out of the game when you have to manage minimal contact and Gray Rock Technique.
You’ll also learn some really useful phrases that work like mental tai chi, deflecting covert-aggressive attacks from manipulative, abusive people. You can use these at work, in the family, in an intimate relationship, with friends, in person, online, on the phone, etc."
Here is an excellent video from the same person on dealing with toxic people at work:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHoadEXHww4
I'm already using some of these techniques, like getting everything in writing. It's got a lot of very practical specific advice very relevant to my current workplace.
Thanks for the links. That's all very helpful and interesting.
guitarman X
I clicked on the video and that is Meredith Miller speaking. I think she is well spoken and very insightful. If you enter her name on you tube you will find many other helpful videos she does. It is well worth your time to listen to her videos.