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Just wanted to share a recent story from my Personality Disordered Family. Mom is Narc dad has Panic Disorder Control Problems as well.
So the fancy house on their block was having a party but while they invited neighbors is was very much known that it was a certain religion CHURCH get together. My parents are not that religion. But my dad decides to do the cooking and my mom comes and invites my brother and his girlfriend (also not that religion!)
While the house was pretty and the food was good and the kids toys were fancy. My brother and girlfriend left feeling HOW AWKWARD.
But my narc mom had to check out their nice stuff. And compare of course. And my dad had to insert himself even though he doesn't know or go to church with any of these people.
So my mom mentions a childhood friend (of that religion and in the neighborhood) was there... It's been decades but hey how are the M family?! My mom wouldn't talk to them because of how "dirty" they are (their yard?) Good grief. This is why I live states away!
Maybe one day you will have so much emotional distance that you look at such behaviour as if it occurred in a soap opera you are watching. And you will laugh about it. It's what your parents are doing. You cannot control it, you cannot change it. You are in no way responsible for it. You could feel embarrassed about it but why?