"Psychopath Free" by Peace

[mulberry]

I just finished reading this book; it is a great book for validation.

After reading many books on 'the facts', this book offers insight from 'Peace'; a writer and a fellow abuse survivor; who offers hard-earned wisdom that can only come from living it, surviving, and going on to thrive...

It is concise, and to the point; a handbook to keep coming back to, and referring to.

'Peace' also participates in a forum with other survivors, of the same name:

https://www.psychopathfree.com/

A good book to include in one's arsenal. 



mulberry

[Klarity Belle]

  Thanks for sharing Mulberry, I have passed this information on to a good friend of mine who has been deeply hurt and abused by a psychopathic type. 

[mulberry]

Hi, Klarity Belle,

Thanks for sharing Mulberry, I have passed this information on to a good friend of mine who has been deeply hurt and abused by a psychopathic type.

Good. I hope it helps.

Not to be faceteous, but I personally don't know of anything less than deeply hurt and abused, when it comes to the aftermath of a psychopath.

Getting facts from other books first, will help in understanding; recovery, and healing...

But this "personal experience" book offers the "cherry-on'top" of validation...






mulberry

[Klarity Belle]

My friend was very grateful for the good info, she is in the rage stage of her healing journey and is struggling with how to express it safely or handle it. She bumped into her ex in a bar and he goaded her, she ended up screwing up the newspaper she was holding and hitting him with it. Later she beat herself up so much for losing her temper in front of him.  I have read through some of the articles and posts on the forum of that site, it has excellent info for those who have been 'done over' by a psychopath. You are right, there is no other way to come out of a relationship with a person like this other than deeply hurt 

[mulberry]

My friend was very grateful for the good info, she is in the rage stage of her healing journey and is struggling with how to express it safely or handle it. She bumped into her ex in a bar and he goaded her, she ended up screwing up the newspaper she was holding and hitting him with it.

A rolled up newspaper!   

Oh yes, they are good at 'goading'. Push all your buttons, and wait for a reaction, and then use your reaction, against you.

I once threw a full glass of beer in my ex's face, and abruptly split the scene, after a particularly intense amount of pressure being putting on me to hurry up and order, as he had 'places to go'.

I reacted to his 'goading'.
3 months of silence later, he was still waiting for me to apologize.
It never happened.

I thought to myself, unless getting a drink thrown in your face is usual behavior, (it wasn't) you'd think a person might scan over their behavior to see what would cause this kind of reaction...

That was logical me, reacting to a psychopath.
I just had no idea what it was I was dealing with.
I suffered too long being with that man,
and that was with behavior in plain view.

The covert stuff, found later, was where the real poison was...   

Rolled up newspapers, drinks thrown in their faces, they goad us 'lesser mortals' to 'prove our inferiority.' 

I'm past anger, now, Klarity Belle... 

I'm relieved.

And I'm starting to feel like myself again, but not my old self.

The new me has lost her innocence, but gained new wisdom.

Your friend will get there, too... 

Godspeed.




mulberry

[Klarity Belle]

So good to know you have come so far in your recovery Mulberry, these emotional black holes consume so much of our light and energy  I know my friend will get through it too and imo these guys were lucky a drink or newspaper was to hand! 

[WhiteCup]

I loved this book.

At first it starts out like any other book on this topic (and I've read loads, maybe all of them).

But the last part of the book is really different, and speaks to the reader of more subtle things e.g. what the victim of a psychopath can learn about themselves.  Very powerful and uplifting. 

[justlearning]

I haven't read the book yet--however, I have read numerous articles by Peace that are available on the website, and I have to say, I find everything to be spot-on. Well thought-out, comprehensive & easy to digest, there's a very reader-friendly writing style being used.

So, I'd recommend the book, just based on the quality of the articles...

[Latchkey]

A really nice short read. Cuts to the chase. Excellent insights. A really good book. One that you can go back to again and again.

I had not considered my exes to be psycopaths really so when I read the book it made me go a bit cold with the realization that the cluster B's are all so fluid and can slip into sociopathy and psycopathy and in the end it is all just labels for the same behaviors.

My only concern was the use of the pronoun YOU a whole lot like in this excerpt below.
"Your heart and mind become numb, unable to perform trivial tasks. You've been ripped away from the chemical addiction going on in your brain, so a lingering haze should be expected as you go through the withdrawal process. Your body will physically deteriorate— appearing fragile and haunted when you look at yourself in the mirror . Before & after pictures of psychopathic abuse survivors are shocking. Your sex drive will oscillate ...

Peace (2013-03-20). Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, & Other Toxic People (p. 66). PsychopathFree.org. Kindle Edition. "


While I could relate to most of what she was talking about-- there were other situations or emotional states that I was not able to relate to.

Most books use "case studies" which have the same effect on me sometimes where I am left saying--"uh that example is so not me" and I end up skimming through them.

Thanks for recommending it mulberry. I am so glad to have read it and will definitely pass it on to others.

Latchkey

[WhiteLight]

I would add the following riddle - if you want to know how a psychopath thinks.

http://www.luke173ministries.org/466823

Somewhat chilling ...

[HoldingStrong]

Thank u for this link WhiteCups! There is some AMAZING reading material on here!

[HoldingStrong]

Mulberry, I have read a few months back on the 'psychopath free' link & just wanna mention there is a lot of good stuff there too! The book is on my list of books I want to get too!