Covert Narcissist (or Quiet/Vulnerable Borderline) and Schadenfreude

[Simon]

I've always found Schadenfreude interesting, even before my experience with a Narcissistic ex.
I've watched this guys videos for a while now, on and off, cherry picking which ones seem interesting to me, and I saw this one today for the first time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJjc-gaeUqs

He does an excellent job of explaining that we can all be guilty of Schadenfreude in the right circumstances (situational), and the reason that Covert Narcs experience Schadenfreude as part of their pathology (dispositional).

Very, very interesting, and very well explained, and if it wasn't already clear in people's minds, it shows just how dangerous the covert/vulnerable/quiet variant of the Cluster B's can be, as they are not only driven by their envy of your attributes and accomplishments, but actually Psychologically gain from your downfall/destruction.

Seeing you in pain from a personal problem or seeing your life falling apart, whether it's by their hand or not, will ease their pain, and give them great joy, albeit temporarily.
(My ex found out that the mother of an ex friend of hers had Cancer, but that didn't stop my ex from slagging him off to me for hours that night. BTW, eventually, that lucky soul turned out to be the New Supply/Victim , poor guy  , but at least his Mum seems to be doing well.  )

And to think that we make the Cluster B's in our life the most important aspect of our lives for a while.
Frightening stuff.
To them, we're just **** on the sole of their shoes.

[Palepinkpeony]

Thank you for sharing this. I watched multiple videos of his last night and they are incredibly eye opening!! 

[clara]

Thanks for posting this!  It's a really good, concise explanation of how these people operate.  For several years, off and on, I dated a guy who was a covert narc although at the time I wasn't familiar with the term.  The process explained in this video is exactly how it seems he interacted with others.  I was friends with him for years after we stopped dating because he was part of my larger social circle.  The glee he took from the misfortune of others, both friends and exes, became disturbing after awhile.  He didn't even try to hide it, it was there for anyone to see.

Interestingly, he slowly slid into alcoholism, his life was something of a mess, and he could no longer find women to date and torment, or friends  to look down his nose at.  Seems he was becoming a very lonely and isolated person when I last saw him, but like others I made no attempt to keep in touch after the social group started breaking up.  Sometimes I wonder what happened to him, but then I realize I really don't care. 

[Boat Babe]

Thanks for posting this!  It's a really good, concise explanation of how these people operate.  For several years, off and on, I dated a guy who was a covert narc although at the time I wasn't familiar with the term.  The process explained in this video is exactly how it seems he interacted with others.  I was friends with him for years after we stopped dating because he was part of my larger social circle.  The glee he took from the misfortune of others, both friends and exes, became disturbing after awhile.  He didn't even try to hide it, it was there for anyone to see.

Interestingly, he slowly slid into alcoholism, his life was something of a mess, and he could no longer find women to date and torment, or friends  to look down his nose at.  Seems he was becoming a very lonely and isolated person when I last saw him, but like others I made no attempt to keep in touch after the social group started breaking up.  Sometimes I wonder what happened to him, but then I realize I really don't care.

They usually end up alone. I think the suicide rate for malignant people is higher than the average, but don't quote me.