Try this act of defiance against the narcissist by Dr. Ramani

[bee well]

I've already commented on this in guitarman's thread about joy (in the cafe..it's a great thread, please check it out), but I just wanted to put it here because I think what is said in the video is so important. It's one of my favorite Dr. Ramani videos so far.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38W_MT5-k9M

Narcissists (or those with high narcissistic traits) don't tend to appreciate the small moments of joy that we can find in seemingly ordinary surroundings. Other things that they seem to  have a problem with are gratitude and random acts of kindness.

Many survivors fantasize about getting back at the narcissist but that only gives them fuel and depletes us. Allowing joy to flow, and pausing to notice in the small moments when it comes to us, is a powerful healing force.