Changed my phone number

[sunshine702]

So I did something strategic.  I changed my telephone number though a storm brewing on their end.  It is out of an honest need. We are moving to rural Arizona in the next year and they only get ATT down that street.  So new AZ number and new ATT IPhone.  My contract was up with T-Mobile.

The timing was strategic.  I wanted to be unreachable as a real estate deal went down- not my circus not my monkeys.

Then I gave the number to my father.   She huffingly called today.  I participated with the small talk.  And did not bring up the real estate deal.  If they want to talk about what happened fine. Didn't happen so good.  I also let her know my actual feelings on the Twitter Musk small talk.  Which was of course blown off - lol.  I know I should have grey rocked but I really didn't' care.  She asked I answered
  Pshaw.  She did ask for my email though so I am sure I will hear about the deal via email.  Grey rock.  Grey rock.

[moglow]

I used to have on repeat in my head: Do not respond. Do not respond. [happy song happy song happy song] Do not respond!
Be boring, show no interest or excitement. "Well." "I see." "You don't say." "Hmmmm." Redirect to innocuous, random impersonal conversation. Repeat as needed.

[sunshine702]

She called for my birthday today so I picked up.

Mistake. The house situation devolving as I expected. Heard about that.

And A LOT more. Scapegoat brother had an arrest. He get sentenced in a month or so.

And most hurtful Narc mom managed to tell me he was making fun of my Christmas gift.  Which was hurtful  both that she would tell me and that he might have said that. One of them is awful or both are


I am thinking about. cut them off.  I  am going to start some therapy with someone who specializes in PD soon.  Uhug Happy Birthday

[BefuddledClarity]

She called for my birthday today so I picked up.

Mistake. The house situation devolving as I expected. Heard about that.

And A LOT more. Scapegoat brother had an arrest. He get sentenced in a month or so.

And most hurtful Narc mom managed to tell me he was making fun of my Christmas gift.  Which was hurtful  both that she would tell me and that he might have said that. One of them is awful or both are


I am thinking about. cut them off.  I  am going to start some therapy with someone who specializes in PD soon.  Uhug Happy Birthday

Sorry you have to deal with that...you mentioned you're living in Arizona, I heard a couple of members from Out of the FOG recommend Kris Godinez. She's a therapist that helps with PD related family and even has a YouTube channel.

[sunshine702]

Thank you for the recommendation
Yeah she is fun.  I am in Nevada for a little bit longer - but Arizona soon.  I changed it early to get through her very nerve wracking 2nd house purchase.  The SG  brother will live there.  She has backed out of a lot of real estate deals before so I wanted to go dark.  He needed it but I know it will be a clown show and sure enough... yep already that he took the curtains down.  And how if my brother died (oh wow) how she will throw L the girlfriend out in a heartbeat.  Planning cruelty - yep that is her