I tested positive for Covid

[p123]

Not that ill to be honest so nothing to worry about....

BUT first thing I thought - can't visit Dad this week. This will be funny to see because he'll be more upset about not getting his visit and his groceries than me. Ha ha.

I must be the only person in the world pleased to have Covid!

Annoyingly got music festival next weekend - hope I'm ok by then!

[Happypants]

I must be the only person in the world pleased to have Covid!

Annoyingly got music festival next weekend - hope I'm ok by then!

Nope, I've just enjoyed the freedoms of Covid. Not making light of it, was very lucky it was no worse than a mild cold, but I appreciated the enforced isolation 😬

[NarcKiddo]

I have to say that one aspect of lockdown I enjoyed (the only one) was not having to do the family visits. Joy.

Hope you test negative again soon, and that you don't get too ill. I had quite a nasty dose despite being fully jabbed and boosted only a month prior. The fatigue was something else.

[Poison Ivy]

I hope your illness is mild, p123, and I fully understand your feelings about the positive of the enforced isolation. I hope your family stays well.

[wisingup]

I'm sensing a theme here... I was secretly happy that my positive test / mild illness earlier this month relieved me of any chance of joining my brother & mom for her birthday lunch. 

[Cat of the Canals]

I have to say that one aspect of lockdown I enjoyed (the only one) was not having to do the family visits. Joy.

Same. 

I hope you're feeling better and testing negative for your music festival, p123. And maybe you could "forget" to tell your dad for a few days when you're in the clear. 

[p123]

Yeh its mild. I'm working today just feel a bit tired.

Already told Dad its 7 days lol.

[p123]

I have to say that one aspect of lockdown I enjoyed (the only one) was not having to do the family visits. Joy.

Hope you test negative again soon, and that you don't get too ill. I had quite a nasty dose despite being fully jabbed and boosted only a month prior. The fatigue was something else.

Oh during one of the lockdowns in the UK you couldn't leave your own county. I live 25 miles from Dad so its a few counties- Dad lives in the same county as brother. Yes!!!

I got called every name under the sun by the FMs here. Because "surely it doesn't apply to me". Even Dad tried the "yes but it does'nt apply if you're the carer of someone seriously ill".

Seriously ill? Hes never been seriously ill in his life I don't think...

[feralcat]

P123. I live in Wales as well. And was thankful for the additional (to England) lockdowns imposed. (Especially when compared to how mindless some folk became the minute 'freedom' was allowed over the border. Paaarty !) I think many people got to appreciate a lot the the little things, and nature, a lot more.

And yes, what a great reason for not having to drive distances to visit people you'd rather not. Who were well catered for anyway. Some of the things set in motion re shopping, online groups, telephone befriending etc will stay. And are a godsend for the elderly and disabled.

I've enjoyed meeting up with the people I like since, and dreaded/tolerated get togethers with others.

Good luck with getting to your festival . We've booked a few. little ones.
Ps theoretically getting over Covid can take weeks. Wink wink. (And I'm not  making light of Covid. At all. I got it February 2020, and now have the joys of Long Covid, which I've had to work on radically accepting - And delved down into myself for any 'silver linings'. Eg not have much energy means I don't actually get pulled into the draaaama any more. Can't be a@@@@d lol)

[Sneezy]

Hope you feel better soon, p123!  I just saw an article that said some people can still pass covid on to others up to 10 days after testing positive.  Given your dad's age, I'd advise erring on the side of caution and keeping your distance for at least a couple weeks 

As others have said, I don't want to make light of covid.  It was and is a very serious world-wide problem.  But the enforced distancing was good in some ways.  It made me really think about what things I missed doing and what things I don't care if I ever do again.  For example, I miss going to the movies.  But I don't miss following my mother around the grocery store for an hour as she meanders from aisle to aisle picking out heavy stuff that I have to lug up to her apartment.  Mom's not happy, but I no longer take her grocery shopping.  From now on, she orders her groceries.  Covid taught me that life is too short to lug someone else's groceries upstairs 

[Lilyloo]

p123,  Hope you feel better soon!     Lock downs were stressfull in many ways, but as others have said, it meant not dealing with family, esp N mother. They made fun of me for masking. I am talking about brothers and mother. She actually gave me a wall hanging that said "let your faith be bigger than your fear"  Lol!!  That was a direct hit because I was stressed about covid.  I am a Christian just a private one, not boastful like her.  I surely don't need a wall hanging from her on my wall!! Shes one of those Christian Narcs, Be well p123!

[nanotech]

I hope you are feeling better P123!
Although my Ndad has been very careful of covid, my siblings have been critical of me for not driving 60 miles just to wave at dad through the window, get in my car, and drive home! Nope, not doing that!

My dad has had his moments though.
At one point, when even garden visits were banned, my dad, who was 88 at the time, told me there was 'nothing to stop' him driving up to my house and parking outside. I told him ok as long as he realised that he couldn't even step into my garden!  Stunned silence from my dad !
Sigh. I think there was pressure there from him, to try to make ME break the rules, and then he wouldn't be responsible. I think he was hoping for me to tell him we would try to  'sneak' a garden visit! 
It's mostly this passive aggressive stuff that I have to try and negotiate. It comes nicely dressed up as harmless, but then all hell can break loose. Then I would get the full blame. My house, my town, my responsibility!
I must admit that due to my very toxic relationship with my dad, sticking to the  covid rules was a doddle, and in many ways. a relief.
Since restrictions were lifted,  I was then 'punished' by dad's repeated refusal to let me visit- always a 'genuine' reason of course. In the end I had to insist that I was coming, and if he wouldn't let me in a would just see him on the doorstep. So he then agreed, then as I came in, promptly invited himself for Christmas!

Interesting-When I eventually saw him and hugged him, it just felt quite empty really. Not comparable to the emotional reunions I had with my adult kids and beautiful grandkids.
He wasn't emotional either. He never questioned my clear lack of actual feeling. He thinks this is normal, I guess. As long as a 'hug' happens, then that's the box ticked.

[moglow]

P, in all seriousness, I get that you're glad you got it. You have an out that no one can honestly fight. Remember too, the covid isn't selective - it shares a wide variety of symptoms indiscriminately. Your milder case might not at all be what others close to you experience.  Plenty had no or limited symptoms, while others in their household were very ill indeed. And once symptoms are gone doesnt mean it's over OR that a person is forever immune. Recovery can take a while as well. What I'm saying is, you really don't want to be the conduit to dad, whatever he might argue.

Maybe use this as an opportunity to reinforce necessary boundaries with dad - stop repeat explaining and JADE responses (even to yourself). State it once and let it go. Learn yo let his comments roll off as truly not your stuff. I'm not saying shut him out or cut him off, but limit the intrusion into your mind.

[p123]

I hope you are feeling better P123!
Although my Ndad has been very careful of covid, my siblings have been critical of me for not driving 60 miles just to wave at dad through the window, get in my car, and drive home! Nope, not doing that!

My dad has had his moments though.
At one point, when even garden visits were banned, my dad, who was 88 at the time, told me there was 'nothing to stop' him driving up to my house and parking outside. I told him ok as long as he realised that he couldn't even step into my garden!  Stunned silence from my dad !
Sigh. I think there was pressure there from him, to try to make ME break the rules, and then he wouldn't be responsible. I think he was hoping for me to tell him we would try to  'sneak' a garden visit! 
It's mostly this passive aggressive stuff that I have to try and negotiate. It comes nicely dressed up as harmless, but then all hell can break loose. Then I would get the full blame. My house, my town, my responsibility!
I must admit that due to my very toxic relationship with my dad, sticking to the  covid rules was a doddle, and in many ways. a relief.
Since restrictions were lifted,  I was then 'punished' by dad's repeated refusal to let me visit- always a 'genuine' reason of course. In the end I had to insist that I was coming, and if he wouldn't let me in a would just see him on the doorstep. So he then agreed, then as I came in, promptly invited himself for Christmas!

Interesting-When I eventually saw him and hugged him, it just felt quite empty really. Not comparable to the emotional reunions I had with my adult kids and beautiful grandkids.
He wasn't emotional either. He never questioned my clear lack of actual feeling. He thinks this is normal, I guess. As long as a 'hug' happens, then that's the box ticked.

Yes same here. I can't remember if it was the same in England but, at one point, in Wales you weren't allowed to leave the county. Granted in south wales the counties are small but it would have been crossing 4 counties to get to Dad.

Wouldn't have it though. He was seriously ill and he saw on the news that there was an exemption for someone who needs care. Not you then Dad.

Of course my stupid brother ignored it all.  Visited, took him out in the car (and drove miles) so it was all me being mean.

[nanotech]

I hope you are feeling better P123!
Although my Ndad has been very careful of covid, my siblings have been critical of me for not driving 60 miles just to wave at dad through the window, get in my car, and drive home! Nope, not doing that!

My dad has had his moments though.
At one point, when even garden visits were banned, my dad, who was 88 at the time, told me there was 'nothing to stop' him driving up to my house and parking outside. I told him ok as long as he realised that he couldn't even step into my garden!  Stunned silence from my dad !
Sigh. I think there was pressure there from him, to try to make ME break the rules, and then he wouldn't be responsible. I think he was hoping for me to tell him we would try to  'sneak' a garden visit! 
It's mostly this passive aggressive stuff that I have to try and negotiate. It comes nicely dressed up as harmless, but then all hell can break loose. Then I would get the full blame. My house, my town, my responsibility!
I must admit that due to my very toxic relationship with my dad, sticking to the  covid rules was a doddle, and in many ways. a relief.
Since restrictions were lifted,  I was then 'punished' by dad's repeated refusal to let me visit- always a 'genuine' reason of course. In the end I had to insist that I was coming, and if he wouldn't let me in a would just see him on the doorstep. So he then agreed, then as I came in, promptly invited himself for Christmas!

Interesting-When I eventually saw him and hugged him, it just felt quite empty really. Not comparable to the emotional reunions I had with my adult kids and beautiful grandkids.
He wasn't emotional either. He never questioned my clear lack of actual feeling. He thinks this is normal, I guess. As long as a 'hug' happens, then that's the box ticked.

Yes same here. I can't remember if it was the same in England but, at one point, in Wales you weren't allowed to leave the county. Granted in south wales the counties are small but it would have been crossing 4 counties to get to Dad.

Wouldn't have it though. He was seriously ill and he saw on the news that there was an exemption for someone who needs care. Not you then Dad.

Of course my stupid brother ignored it all.  Visited, took him out in the car (and drove miles) so it was all me being mean.

Yes it was the same in England. Different counties had different rules at different times.
When you think about it, the only weapons  They have are their voiced opinions of us. To stop caring about what my dad/ siblings think about me, was a real game changer for me. 
I realised that they will talk badly of me in any case, might as well let them. live my life, and not bother or stress about it!

[p123]

I hope you are feeling better P123!
Although my Ndad has been very careful of covid, my siblings have been critical of me for not driving 60 miles just to wave at dad through the window, get in my car, and drive home! Nope, not doing that!

My dad has had his moments though.
At one point, when even garden visits were banned, my dad, who was 88 at the time, told me there was 'nothing to stop' him driving up to my house and parking outside. I told him ok as long as he realised that he couldn't even step into my garden!  Stunned silence from my dad !
Sigh. I think there was pressure there from him, to try to make ME break the rules, and then he wouldn't be responsible. I think he was hoping for me to tell him we would try to  'sneak' a garden visit! 
It's mostly this passive aggressive stuff that I have to try and negotiate. It comes nicely dressed up as harmless, but then all hell can break loose. Then I would get the full blame. My house, my town, my responsibility!
I must admit that due to my very toxic relationship with my dad, sticking to the  covid rules was a doddle, and in many ways. a relief.
Since restrictions were lifted,  I was then 'punished' by dad's repeated refusal to let me visit- always a 'genuine' reason of course. In the end I had to insist that I was coming, and if he wouldn't let me in a would just see him on the doorstep. So he then agreed, then as I came in, promptly invited himself for Christmas!

Interesting-When I eventually saw him and hugged him, it just felt quite empty really. Not comparable to the emotional reunions I had with my adult kids and beautiful grandkids.
He wasn't emotional either. He never questioned my clear lack of actual feeling. He thinks this is normal, I guess. As long as a 'hug' happens, then that's the box ticked.

Yes same here. I can't remember if it was the same in England but, at one point, in Wales you weren't allowed to leave the county. Granted in south wales the counties are small but it would have been crossing 4 counties to get to Dad.

Wouldn't have it though. He was seriously ill and he saw on the news that there was an exemption for someone who needs care. Not you then Dad.

Of course my stupid brother ignored it all.  Visited, took him out in the car (and drove miles) so it was all me being mean.

Yes it was the same in England. Different counties had different rules at different times.
When you think about it, the only weapons  They have are their voiced opinions of us. To stop caring about what my dad/ siblings think about me, was a real game changer for me. 
I realised that they will talk badly of me in any case, might as well let them. live my life, and not bother or stress about it!

Ha ha yes of course. Haven't spoken to my brother for over 2 years now since this "Covid" argument. Suits me.

[wisingup]

P123 - my brother was diagnosed with cancer last fall, & I recently was diagnosed with epilepsy & have had my driving privileges revoked.  We had a bit of a laugh at how far we were each willing to go to get out of dealing with ubpd mom.