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Questioning whether it's worth writing anything down for future reference by kids, even if just the details of what happened in divorce- finance facts, no personal stuff. History is being rewritten I am sure.

Ex npdh is superb manipulator and very successful. New partner, wealthy, respected etc.

Three years in to marriage put hands around my neck which ""shut me down""literally for years. He also did something similar to eldest child around 14- which I didn't find out about until recently. Guilt for not leaving earlier still gets to me. Youngest is Gc - and has been worked over hard, and has fleas. Heartbreaking. There is so much each doesn't know- over the years -npdh did not want baby, ( after birth), threatened divorce , faked illness, threatened to kill me, denied it, had psychotherapy and all the rest, etc etc.  Divorce was a nightmare predictably- I feared that I would end up as a newspaper report.- definitely capable.

Do I ever let them know any of this stuff? Eldest would be aware of some of it. 

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Having a journal with dates and important events....
being able to put your hands on all important documents and evidence, should you need it or want to explain things to anyone is a good enough reason to keep your evidence filed and organized and secure, IME.

I wouldn't want to tell my PD story without handing someone the notebook full of evidence that backs up everything EVERYTHING I say.  Tailoring my story to JUST what I could prove was helpful, IME.

Your children might ask for your side of the story one day OR accuse you of things your ex convinces them of, which leaves you little choice but to SHOW them the facts, IME

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