NPD mother-1 year in

[Anonimouse]

Hi all, new here. We are 1 year almost into discovering that my mom likely has NPD. As I'm sure most of you know, it's not something they will likely ever recognize and it's incredibly frustrating and sad once you have to cut off the relationship. There is a lot that has happened this year but I think I'm currently in a place of grief because I just feel so misunderstood by friends/church family. Thankfully I have siblings I can talk to, but I'm so just sad that none of my friends understand, it feels incredibly lonely. I know my spouse has seen it first hand, but I even feel like he just doesn't understand- or he's just so cold to the world that he's like "of course. That's just how people are." But I just don't process in the same way. Anyway, I guess I'm just looking for people who might be able to understand with me and validate how hard it is.

[Defiantdaughter1]

The majority of mothers nurture and love their children, which is why most people don't understand or believe you when you talk about a mother who is cold, manipulative, narcissistic, etc. Most people don't have bad mothers. For those who do, it's not uncommon for them to not be believed or understand, particularly when children or teenagers describe a narcissistic mother. People tend to think the child is exaggerating or lying. But, once you have lived it or seen it firsthand, it becomes clear.

[xredshoesx]

welcome to the group @Anonimouse - you are amongst folks that get it bc many of us have LIVED IT and are still recovering from it.

i'm so glad you and your siblings are on the same page with how it really is.  in my situation, I was the only child until I found out my uncle was really my half brother in my mid 20s.  I've been NC with my uPD mother since I was 21ish and NC with my 'uncle brother' since I was 25.  I will say it's rough out here on these streets even now (I'm almost 53) bc not having a mother sucks but I have been fortunate to have many caring mother figures/ sister friends to fill part of that gap.

as you settle in be gentle with yourself.  a lot of us post here
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