I am New Here

[CrazyCalico]

Hi everyone!

I decided to join after realizing my soon-to-be ex-wife is suffering from NPD and BPD. My Mother also had BPD, but has received treatment, including individual, group DBT, marriage, and family therapy. My wife sort of had a 'break' after getting an outpatient surgical procedure, followed by a total hysterectomy, which put her into menopause in her early 30's. Our dynamic has shifted GREATLY due to the involvement of her family, all of whom show characteristics of BPD and/or NPD along with emeshment. While she is trying to rush this entire process, I am hoping to salvage our marriage and get her the help she needs and deserves. However, I have been unable to help her aside from her mental health, but also from a lack of approval and involvement from her family.

[bloomie]

CrazyCalico - welcome to Out of the FOG. What a complex situation you and your wife are facing right now. Sudden and profound hormonal changes and then difficult in law/family dynamics are quite a lot to sort through.

I wanted to point you toward resources at the drop down menus above where you will find tools, insights for specific traits you are encountering, book recommendations, and so much more.

When you are ready, join the conversations taking place on the sub forums. Thank you for sharing a snap shot of what brings you here. Sending you strength and wisdom!