He's moving out this weekend

[Blackbird11]

Separated in-home for 1.5 years. Finally have an agreement that uPDh was satisfied with regarding home/custody, and he'll be moved out by Sunday.

I'm feeling a weird mix of relief, happiness, frustration, grief, etc. Of course there's a part of me that wants to make it all better and just get back together again - but I've learned that it's codependency and not a healthy relationship.

Our issues are not fixable. We tried. I'll even give him credit - he did start regular therapy, so I think he tried to the extent that he's able to. Unfortunately he never took full responsibility for his actions and continued to gaslight/manipulate/and emotionally abuse me throughout the separation. I know I'm making the right choice for my child and I.

He's being mostly calm about it and seems accepting. He is making some dramatic/passive aggressive gestures to really bring it home that I'm "kicking him out of the house." Our neighbors all feel sorry for him. His family tried to send a flying monkey by the other day. I MC/GR.

It's so frustrating to not talk about what I experienced with him, but I think it's the best path forward. We still have a final agreement to work on after this.

Thank you all for your kind and supportive words, support, shared experiences, etc. It has helped me to change my life - and hopefully my kid's life - for the better.

[notrightinthehead]

keeping my fingers crossed that all will go smoothly

[Lookin 2 B Free]

You sound in a really good place, Blackbird.  Doing what's best for you and your child.  Please let us know how it's going.  All the best! 

[GettingOOTF]

This is great news. Divorce is never easy and always comes with a mix of emotions.

Everyone also felt sorry for my ex. Years later I have a whole new life and I couldn't care less what those people think. I see now that people who are taken in my PDs have their own issues, just like I had mine.

I hope the move goes smoothly and that you stay safe.