Hello and Trying to Find the Solution

[thedoghousedweller]

Hello, new here.  Just found the site a couple of days ago and have studied a lot ever since.  I'm grateful for a community that may guide me to some answers.  I have to get something off my chest. 

I've been dealing with a tough marriage but am committed to my covenant to see it through.  This season of life - unsteady income on top of emptying bank account -  has unveiled the challenges in my marriage.  My wife uSPDw + several other things has explained that she has no trust in my ability to provide a secure household for her.  Our income is 100% dependent on my business, which is now getting off the ground after two years of development.  (Had any other business offered me a job along the way, I would have taken it.)  She refuses to attempt to work due to an undiagnosed illness and points out that it is my responsibility to provide as the man of the household.  I've been doing my best. 

I know that my marriage will continue, but I also am seeking joy and peace.  My concern is that when the financial difficulties lighten, the relationship issues will remain.  I look forward to this forum for guidance.  Thank you for listening. 

[bloomie]

Hi there thedoghousedweller. Welcome to Out of the FOG. I am thankful you have joined us for support and that you have had a chance to begin looking through the amazing depth of resources you will find here. Reaching out for encouragement is a great first step in finding way to cope and strategies to handle specific difficult behaviors.

The conversations taking place on the boards is a place that I began to find validation for truly the first time in my life in my own troubled relationships with people I loved who I suspect have undiagnosed personality disorder. This is a wise and caring community that will weigh in and encourage you.

When you are ready join the conversations! I look forward to seeing you out there on the boards!

[Matteblak]

Glad you found Out of the FOG. I am pretty new here as well but have found the people and resources to be helpful and encouraging. I'm sorry for what you have been going through.
There are parts of your story that I can relate to a great deal (e.g. physical intimacy has been a weapon in our home for a LONG time). Also, you mentioned your faith. There is a specific area of the site for religions and spiritual issues as it relates to PD that you might find helpful.
I was saved 4 years ago, and that opened my eyes to the fact that something was wrong. One issue that many (some, all, ?) of us face is that the PD's in our life expect us to consider them our god in one form or fashion. Just my experience, your results may vary.

[thedoghousedweller]

Thank you.  I will check out the religious section.