How to get away....

[TooLiteral]

I feel like this is so much more complicated than just getting away...

Our son has Aspergers and Tourette. If I put him in the car and take him away, I will be taking everything that comforts him away crom him. His room is his sanctuary. His piano, his legos, and his computer all soothe him when he is freaking out. I wont be able to afford to repurchase those things for him. I wont be able to afford anything. I ha e been homeschooling him for 15 years. All of his books are here, his learning aids.... I havent worked. How am I supposed to homeschool him AND work to get us a place to live? I have no friends. No family that can help. He has alienated me from everyone.

I am so so lost. And so alone. How did I let this happen? I was a strong, driven woman for most of my life. How did I get so backed into a corner?

[ChillNow]

Dear Too Literal ,

The first thing you may want to consider is saving up some money that only you know about.  Be persistent and know that many women spent many months saving until they were able to make a change for themselves and their children.

Next, you may want to have a consultation with a family law attorney.  If you are in the US, you may want to research 'Interim Partial Distribution' laws and practices in your State.  Here is an excerpt from a random law firm website, based on a Google search I just did:

Interim Relief in a divorce case: what can the Court do?
Partial distribution
During the pendency of a divorce, either party can request an order from the court that provides for an interim partial distribution or an assignment of marital property. 23 Pa. C.S.A. § 3505(f). This is done prior to equitable distribution by the court. Some of the factors that the Court will consider in ordering a partial distribution include the complexity and potential length of litigation, the types of assets involved in the case, and the needs of a particular client. Also, sometimes an interim order with respect to partial distribution is done on the basis of an urgency-as there is some time-pressing reason why the court must decide on the distribution of an asset before a divorce is finalized.
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(Exclusive possession
Often the parties dispute over who should live in the marital residence. While a divorce is pending, the court may award the right to reside in the marital residence to one or both parties. In granting this interim relief, the court will look to whether the spouse requesting exclusive possession in the marital residence currently has the children living with them, or if the marital residence is located within the school district where the children are currently attending school. Other considerations in granting this interim relief include the affordability of living in the marital residence, whether one of the spouses runs their business out of the home, or whether one of the spouse's extended families lives in the area near the marital residence.)

Best wishes!

[Stillirise]

As the previous poster mentioned, it is possible to stay in the marital home. If you think you will be able to ensure your personal safety, that is.  I also recommend speaking with an attorney, and putting money back, if you can.

My plan involved leaving with the kids for several days when I filed, then returning to the marital home.  Since it was in the early days of the pandemic lockdown, we did spend awhile on separate floors of the same house. I don't recommend that.  The day he found his own accommodation was such a relief!

In short, just because most people in our situations choose to leave their homes, it isn't the only option.  Priority goes to your safety, and then the well-being of you and your son. If you make decisions based on that, and let the other noise fade, your options may become clearer.

Best wishes to you!