Finally Out of the FOG

[finallyOOTF]

Hello everyone, I am brand new to this website and am about half way through the book. I came to the realization that my parents are narcissists (mom more so than my dad) a few weeks ago. My husband and I were discussing how we wanted to raise our future children, and I realized I didn't want to raise them the way I was raised at all.  I had always thought that my parents were strict, but once the rose tinted glasses came off I saw everything in a new light. Everything I had thought was normal, isn't. It is kind of earth shattering, not to sound dramatic. I start talking with a counselor in about a week and look forward to learning how to manage VLC/NC and learning more about myself. It is great to find people who understand the array of feelings, although I wish we all never had been dealt this hand. Kind of bittersweet to find people who get it haha.

[D.]

Hello Finally Out of the FOG, 

Welcome!  I am pretty new here as well.  It sounds like you are taking some important steps towards understanding and coping with your own reality.  I too am sorry that you had to experience narcissistic parents as a child.  We all deserved better.  Your future children will be lucky that you have taken the time reflect, understand, and act on a new reality with them.  Thank you for reaching out here to join this community.  I look forward to seeing you on the boards 

D.