PD behaviors in young children

[Bunnyme]

I know that that most PD "onset" is in adolescence/early adulthood, but did anyone see signs much earlier? 
My 6 year old is exhibiting a lot of the same behaviors as uNBPDstbxh.  They may be learned from his dad...or maybe he is normal and his dad acts like a 6 year old.  Things like not taking responsibility, then turning it on me when I say something.  E.g. I calmly remind him that we need to leave, and that I am going to be late for work.  Instead of being sorry, I get "so you want me to hurry and dont even care if I fall and hurt myself."  Many more examples, but that is just one. 
I've been reading up on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).  Even if he doesnt have a PD, I'm hopeful that the techniques will help. 
I dont think he does, but it is always a fear.

[Free2Bme]

Bunnyme,

I understand your concerns but being selfish and manipulative is normal for children.  (PD's are not Dx until 18yo for this reason).  However, parenting is hard.  We are not born knowing how to parent and children don't come with instructions.  I would encourage you to find some really good resources on parenting and proper discipline (training).  Regardless if your son is picking up on traits from your H, or he is just being a normal kid testing boundaries, YOU have to be the one to set the tone and teach him.  I would not expect him to be sorry at 6, he's not understanding adult stressors like being late for work.  Don't take it personally.

With my 4 children I learned the importance of having a plan for how to handle things like getting out the door.  The most mistakes I made as a parent were due to me not having a plan in place and trying to wing it.  This set me up to feel overwhelmed, powerless, and frustrated.  If you have identified the morning routine as a problem, develop a solution.  At 6yo, kids require help getting ready and haven't developed the ability to be time-conscious yet.  So, this falls on parents to get child ready to leave.  You can give him directives like "please finish breakfast, get dressed and brush teeth", but he will require some prodding and supervision because he is only 6 years old. 

Use lots of praise and positive reinforcement when he stays on task and has a cheerful attitude.  Allow time for mess-ups and give yourself some time to assist him, do as much as you can to get ready the night before.  If you are stressed, he will pick up on it and mirror it back to you.  This might be the source of his comments.  Keep your expectations of him age appropriate.

Make it a game, tell him that if he does well all week you will take him for a treat.  Find ways to turn negatives into positives.

A therapist once recommended "Parenting with Love and Logic" by Cline.  I have not read it, but it seems to have good reviews.

~ take care and don't sweat the small stuff