UNPDh playing dad?

[TooLiteral]

More of the crazy-making. My uNPDh asked me to bring him lunch at work, and a tool from our home. I did. He was so pissed that I put the tool in my car because it got the seat dirty. I told him it was no big deal. He said "Well it's a big deal to ME! Yo're destroying your car." I bristled immediately. He does this constantly. And right in front of our son. I almost asked if I was grounded. Or if he wanted my keys. But I didnt want to fight with him in front of the kiddo so I just ignorted it.
I'm so pissed off I cant breatbe.

[notrightinthehead]

Rightly so. Hard to imagine what makes him think it is ok to put you down like that.

[Call Me Cordelia]

What a set up. How were you supposed to bring him the tool without putting it in the car? 

I'd be pissed too. You say he does this constantly... do you have a plan for dealing with it? It's definitely not good for your son to witness.

[Boat Babe]

Any excuse to abuse you.

Also, he is abusing your child. One of the ten ACEs ( Adverse Childhood Experiences) is witnessing a parent being abused.

I remember my father treating my mother horrifically. It's burned into my psyche. Although mum is a waify uBPD and continues to be a right royal pain in the bum, I am forever grateful that she got away from him, taking me with her when I was 6.

Sending you love and courage.

[SparkStillLit]

Omg! Updh does this too! I have a rubber guard in the hatch of MY car, but he flips his shit when I put bags of wood chips/soil back there, or tools, or DOGS (and holy hell if the dogs ride on the seats), anything like that!
Nuts, innit???