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[sunshine702]

I wanted you all's WISE advice regarding a recent situation summed up in ONE photo.

Backstory-
My mother's Narc Source is Grandchild H.  It has been really creepy since she was born.  My mother acts like H is her/ her best friend/ her everything.  Well she was riding a scooter in Denver and wrecked and bashed out her front teeth.  Her mother could not afford the thousands for veneers so Fairy Godmother Disneyland Grandmother flys her to their town a state away to HER dentist.  She put me on the group texts from the damn dental office about the progress.  I unsubscribed but kept getting voicemail updates then.

The work was done.  It looks fine.  You know - I broke my foot once in New York City.  No flights home.  I wrapped it and zombie walked around.  But whatever. 

The photo:
My SG brother got a JOB recently at a department store.  He was struggling and that  is a great step forward.  I am so proud of him for climbing out of the hole.   
So today I get a picture from my dad of Brother J at his store in his suit and H and her teeth.

I texted back how proud I was of J and he looks great.  I said nothing about H.  That is great that she was able to get that handled but it is not the same accomplishment as my brother and his job.

But in their mind.  It is.  Thoughts. Advice.  Both my brother J and I are really over H. My mom flaunts parenting her and has left my brother and I nothing.  We both have worked on not being jealous but at times (like this photo) it is tough

[intothewest26]

I was GC and scapegoat (only child) and now am the family scapegoat, well on my mom's side of the family.

Voicemail updates? That's definitely excessive. There is something to be said about how disordered it is to inflict these roles on children. N mom is currently in devalue and discard stage with me because I question her choice of partners (dangerous) and am on the way in therapy to uncovering childhood memories I blocked out which could potentially implicate other family members.

Good for your brother and his job.

[sunshine702]

Listening to a Ramani video.  COMPARISON.  That is what is going on here.  Their achievement- fixing H's crisis to Make themselves feel big.  Thus EVERYONE has to know trough Dental Group updates.

They also have a way of invading a workplace.  I feel for my brother.  Normal parents may swing by if in the area to say Hi.  My dad would go BEHIND THE COUNTER of the auto parts store .  "His son worked here."  They are scary inappropriate so them dropping by with no boundaries is terrifying and could easily get you fired.   I have experienced it too.  They are insane with no boundaries.  You know we are NOT the crazy ones.  I want therapy too on how to DEAL with them.  I try to practice my grey rock.