Not sure I have OCPD

[CEH]

 Hello,

I am joining this forum help me determine whether or not I have OCPD.  I have been seeing a therapist who determined that I have traits of OCPD because I tend to want to hoard things.  But he does not think I have it.  My wife, however, once she heard about OCPD is convinced that I seriously have it.  Since she has lived with me 45 years I suppose I should take he word for it but when I look at the various traits of OCPD, I don't see myself having enough of the traits of the disorder.  Can OCPD warp my mind so that I do not recognize the symptoms that I do have?  Does OCPD effect the degree of insight that I have towards recognizing myself as having OCPD?

Does anyone have any thoughts on how I can avoid doing the things that my wife thinks are a manifestation of OCPD.

CEH

[square]

Standard disclaimer that none of us can tell you if you have OCPD or anything else or not.

Were there other symptoms mentioned besides hoarding? Hoarding can be associated with OCD as well as OCPD. OCD and OCPD can have some similarities but are different - though someone can have both.

[xredshoesx]

Hi and welcome to Out of the FOG -

Because you have identified yourself as someone who may be dealing with your own OCPD,  we want to make sure you're aware of a couple of things as you settle in.

First of all-  I'm glad you are working with a mental health professional to get some clarity because like square said, only a doctor can make that determination.  Everyone can exhibit PD traits at one point or another in their lifetime- it's how we react and respond to this that may be of greater importance and it sounds like you are taking some steps forward to change how you react to situations.

It is important that there's an understanding about what the community does here.  We don't diagnose. Out of the FOG is a community dedicated to offering support and information to people who have a loved one or family member who suffers from a personality disorder. That doesn't necessarily exclude those who may have a PD from participating but the rule is we come here to discuss our relationship issues as they pertain to the other people in our lives with a PD, and not PD recovery issues as they pertain to the self. If you suffer from, or suspect you suffer from a personality disorder, we welcome your participation as long as the discussion still revolves around dealing with the loved ones in your life with a PD and not on your own recovery from a PD.   

Also, we'd like you to be aware that people at a site like this are often hurting a great deal.  They come here needing a safe place to vent about how they may have been hurt by the person in their life with a PD.  At times, these comments can be harsh. Reading them may trigger you, if you are not far enough along in your own recovery to let these comments pass without becoming upset or attempting to speak on behalf of others with personality disorders.

Regardless if they decide if you are a person with OCPD or not, there are topics related to your process that would definitely fit in the forum- for example, many of us coming here as adults with childhood  trauma often find the fleas we have/ traits we show are really learned coping mechanisms we developed as very young children in order to survive with a disordered parent or other family member.  If you tell us a little more what brought you to seek help, we can point you to the best place of the forum to share.

Check out the fleas article and see if any of that resonates with you.
https://outofthefog.website/what-not-to-do-1/2015/12/3/fleas

Thanks for your understanding, and again Welcome to Out of the FOG.