Email only

[sunshine702]

Email only-

My beloved Scapegoated brother is currently working two jobs and his long time girlfriend has some health concerns (cancer I am guessing). Their lives are tough right now and he got very snappy with me when I tried to reach out.  I called him (I like to hear his voice) but I blocked the number so he can legitimately say he doesn't know it.  I told him I would do this but not I feel I am losing touch with him too

I put in some hard boundaries for VLC in with my epic toxic Narc egg donor and Super controlling constant judgement enabling father.   I feel fine about that.  Contact with her has stopped - I think emailing proof  of her nastiness (will not) as opposed to her dripping venom over over the phone worked!

And him his constant judgements less than not enoughs I can side step easier in email form than on the spot.  While letting them know I am Alive. 

I kind of wondering my choice.  Can I get some validation / ideas from you. 

Maybe letters?  I want a more  personal contact with him but I know he is insanely busy / stressed. 

[sunshine702]

Those that don't know I am healing from a violent Narcissist discard from my partner of 9 years.  So putting turning off contact wifh where this all began (the parents) was necessary. 

But I agree with Jerry Wise - my scapegoated brother is is GOOD as my emotional abuser parents see him as BAD.

But I completely worry rightfully that they come and kick on him when they can't reach me.  That happened right when I put the VLC in