Do your siblings with personality disorders only chase married people

[RiverPurl]

Me and my sister are estranged many years however since the estranged she was engaged in years and years and years of harassment and abuse. She was trouble and just entitled.  She hurt her own feelings because that's her personality and blamed everyone else over and over and over and over and over again and made drama out from nothing.



I remeber as soon as she turned 19 or 20 years old - this was about 23 years ago approx - she was chatting in a chatroom and met with a man.  That man likely o my had one thing on his mind and gave her lies.  Fed her a picture of wanting a relationship and building a life together when all he wanted was his sexual needs to be met.

She fell for it hook, line and sinker.  As far as I know they only ever met up once or twice.  He was t as available as what he claimed to be. 

She eventually got disappointment and angry with him and stalked him. Found details of his real name, where he worked and he was in fact married.  That was approx 2002 or 2003.  She stalked him and his family until 2008 or 2009. 

After that she went onto another married man in the place she worked in.  He wasn't available for her either and she tried to ruin him too when it was all over.

I know it would only be a matter of time before she would find another married man. I found an account online and although it's she's not using a real name - it is 100% her. 110% in fact.  She has another married man lined up.  She says she has a crush on him.

I know from before she heavily crushes on men with doing very little. It takes her years to make any move but she does.  Apparently he's in her work place and he's flirting with her. 

I don't know what the true situation is.  I would love to know what he is doing flirting in work.  I bet he's only just being friendly and she's it up as flirting.

I know someone else. Not a friend who does the same. Always married men and there's got to be some sort of a disorder and extreme low self esteem or something how they keep going after married men and likely find enjoyment is wrecking families and homes. It's an extremely sick ego boost. 

I know for my sister, she targets married men, and when they upset her, she punishes them knowing damn well that they have a wife at home and likely just has to stay quiet about it and she will stalk and harass and bully.  It gives her a huge trip.  Eventually chewing them up and spitting him out and throwing him under the bus anyways. 

I could half understand one or two similar relationships but this is now at least the third one.  It's still early days as far as I can see.

Still though. Another married man!

I'm holding my head in disbelief as to why she keeps targeting married men. She can be utterly cruel when she doesn't get what she wants or if someone hurts her.  She will punish, stalk and revenge and humiliate.

So long as that's removed from my back.  Let her give her something to focus on aside from me.

[bloomie]

RiverPurl - if there is a way to protect yourself from the details of your sister's life I sure hope you find it and put it in place. This is disheartening to have going through your mind.

[Adria]

RiverPurl,

My sister does the same thing.  She always targets married men, and especially when they have children.  She starts an affair and then taunts the husband and the wife. One of the wives ended up in a mental institution because of her antics.  She also went after her brother-in-law and then told his wife that he raped her.  And that is just the tip of the ice burg.  She went after my first husband and succeeded. Went after my second husband and he saw through her and told me about it and did his best to stay away from her. 

With my sister it goes way more sinister than this, but I don't want to lay it out on the forum. She is way too twisted to say anything more about. She is a very sick, diabolical human being. We've been estranged for more than thirty years, and I don't care if I ever have contact with her ever again.

We looked like twins, and it was so embarrassing because, she was so evil that I always told people I didn't know her and that we were not sisters. Even when we were in high school.  To this day, when I go back to my hometown, I get dirty looks from people and wonder if they think I'm her. 

I'm sorry that you have to deal with this insidious behavior as well.  But, yes, it does take the bullseye off from us. At least for awhile.

[Poison Ivy]

River Purl, I'm sorry that you have to witness your sister engaging in this behavior. Keep in mind, however, that the married men are not innocent victims.