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[Greenandblue]

Hi. I'm saddened that I need to be here and glad that I have found this forum.

I have been dealing with a spouse with undiagnosed bpd for many years. I was in therapy for years trying to understand what I was going through and that it wasn't just me. I have tried to leave several times over the years, but have stayed. I am concerned about the psychological harm that has come to the kids. The preliminary diagnosis of bpd has been made. I think that (and years of learning and preparation) was what I needed to give me the courage to take the next step to leave.

[bloomie]

Greenandblue - welcome to Out of the FOG! I am thankful you found this supportive community and so sorry for the long road you describe having been on. The difference building a support system around you can make as you go forward cannot be underestimated.

As you settle in, browse the site and make good use of the resources here. The toolbox at the dropdown menu above is something I often return to in thinking through how best to handle difficult behaviors I encounter in my own relationship.

The true gold for me, continues to be the conversations taking place on the forum boards. Wherever your reltionship is going - to stay or go - there are others who are in similar seasons. I hope you will find support and encouragement as you spend time here and I look forward to seeing you out on the forum boards!