I'm writing on behalf of my fiance who was a PDh. They have 4 children together and were married for 13 years before she took off to be a flight attendant and didn't come back for 2 years. In the time she was gone they divorced and she saw the kids very sporadically. PDh and I met a few years ago and got engaged this past February. There were adjustments with the kids, of course, but my integration with the kids was alarmingly smooth. After our engagement PDw immediately moved home with her boyfriend (with whom she cheated on my fiance). I moved in with my fiance and the kids in June and they rented a house literally down the street from us July 1. Since her relocation the kids have begun running away, destroying property (at her suggestion). She gave the two oldest secret cell phones to use for recording us (the oldest instigated a fight with me, recorded the whole thing then ran off to her house and we haven't seen or heard from him since), taking pictures of my fiance's medication and sending them to her, sharing the door code for our home and the times we would be gone so the oldest son could come in and turn bedroom doorknobs around (we were accused of physical abuse and of locking them in their rooms). The list goes on and on. I am new to dealing directly with PDs. This website and forum is a GODSEND. I'm so thankful to have found it.