So I was thinking the other day that stbx seemed to be handling the temporary separation pretty well. I hadn't heard anything, he appears to be civil. I was shocked to the point of wondering if I was wrong about a few things. Nope.
Someone must have been on vacation (probably my L) because this past week I received two communications through my lawyer - one dated a week and a half ago. So it turns out stbx has been busy. We've been separated since the 11th of Feb. His L requested my L type up the temp custody agreement asap. My L does, but then we don't hear anything back from them for almost two weeks. They made a bunch of changes which include something about if the kids have off of school on his day and if he's not able to take time off of work, then I should watch them until a certain time, then bring them to him. So essentially I'm supposed to be available to babysit the kids on his day - Friday, if he deems himself unavailable? (he gets Th-Su alternating weeks, and the proposed change was about a Friday). I mean, I'll gladly take the kids anytime he doesn't want them, and they'll gladly come stay with me...but to expect me to be at his beck and call, on his time? Really? He made such a fuss in his affidavits about being in "full control of his work schedule", so why would he not be able to take off work on a Friday to be with the kids if they don't have school?
Another thing he's doing is complaining about the state I've left the house in. I haven't finished moving out my stuff - I got sick and was out of commission for about a week and a half, and there was break, so nothing got done. He's making me out to be a hoarder slob to anyone who will listen, since I "left my belongings scattered throughout every room of the house" and he can't properly clean it up without getting a dumpster.
I was at the house last week to pick up the cat he decided he didn't have time to care for and the place was a disaster. He hadn't made the kids clean up after themselves and the place was a mess. It also smelled like cat pee. I had nothing at all to do with this...well, maybe a little. While I was still living there with him, stbx was letting the kids get away with eating in the living room and didn't make them clean up after themselves - I didn't pick up the slack, so the mess stayed where it was. I'm not a slave.
He's claiming I've left so many of my belongings behind that he's had to start making a pile in the garage. I've seen this pile. It includes some of the kids' belongings, doormats (?!), a used litter box, scratching post, and other common items from the house. I mean, come on, a used doormat???? Really?

There are a few things I have to get out of the house yet, but I'll be damned if I'm taking used doormats and a litter box.
Of course there's more, these are just the highlights.

I am sick and tired of these games he plays. At least I can see them now and point them out to my L. He seems to want to thoroughly discard me (as if I've done him wrong and he's the innocent victim

), and keeps trying to portray me as someone I'm not to the court (to fit his narrative of how awful I am, so he was justified to cheat?). I'm only a short time out and I'm sick of his continuing games already. I don't think he'll ever stop.