LSK1999 - something that is for certain... we are all going to make mistakes. Being redirected in a clear manner when we step over a line - which is what we do here, is actually kindness and what healthy interactions within a community of people looks like. I don't know about you, but that alone has been healing for me. No one is going to pull the rug out from underneath you, or anyone else, without giving fair warnings and opportunities to adjust to the guidelines.
Asking questions and clarifying with the team if we receive a communication is always welcome and just as redirections are done privately and discreetly, a member's questions about a notification are to be done privately. This team of volunteers is here to help. If a member is unsure if something goes over the line - please ask any one of the team you are most comfortable with before posting via PM. And then give us a bit of time to respond as we come here from many differing time zones and get here as we can.
In any support community you will find members at differing points in their healing journey I have found. That gives the community strength and vitality and this contributes to our ultimate goal of healing and human flourishing in spite of the unique challenges of having loved ones who have personality disorders.
Something important to tuck into our pockets is that we only see a small snap shot of another person's life. We cannot really know where someone else is in their recovery or exactly what is most helpful for them. So, as we give and receive support, or ask for advice, or share from our own experiences, it is good to take what we need from what has been shared and to leave the rest. If someone's input is not particularly helpful, or they are further along then us, then just appreciating the effort and consideration that is shown and leaving it there is enough.
